i have a great friend that i have known since fourth grade. we are the best of friends. the only problem is she likes the same person at me. i was mad at first, but now it is all okay. i have liked my crush for almost two years now. and i really like him. he is so nice, cute, and super hilarious. he has to many good things about him. i really do not want to hurt my friends feelings if one of us ( there are three others who like him ) gets asked out and it is not her or me. what should i do?
2007-03-08 02:17:04 · 7 answers · asked by ATL<3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If this situation is bothering you, the best thing you can do is address it. There's really no easy answer to this. But, if you all are the best of friends, like you say you are, than you should be able to talk to her on an adult level. You may even want to start off by beating around the bush and seeing where exactly she stands as far as liking the same guy that you do. Are her feelings as strong, is she as close to him as you are, etc? If you all have been as close as you say you have, than talking through situations like these, shouldn't be too rough. Of course, yes, there may be some jealousy or other feelings, which is understandable. But, I think that she'll respect you more for being upfront and do remember how long you all have been friends. Also, be honest with yourself. First, are you as "head-over-heels" for this guy as you say you are? Secondly, will these feelings jeopardize your special friendship? If you feel like he's worth it and you want to try and be that one for him, than go for it. Your friend should be more than supportive. This really could be a true test to see just how close you all are friendship-wise! And, please remember that there are plenty of men out there for everyone.....so no need to fight or break a friendship. Both of you need to be honest with each other!
2007-03-08 02:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by mixed_beauties 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decsion is yours. Are you good enough friends she can be happy for you if you are chosen over her? If not,is that a friendship worth keeping? Is it worth it for you to loose this guy to keep her friendship? Questions only you can answer.
2007-03-08 02:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by Petra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply do nothing, if you get asked out then it's not your fault that he chose you, and if she was really your friend she will understand. You don't have to chose between your friend and your crush, you can keep them both...If he's not planning to ask you out, if you don't see it coming, just drop it!
2007-03-08 02:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him decide and if you lose a "friend" in the process well search for a new friend.A real friend will accept that you won his affections,so don't stress.
2007-03-08 02:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Student 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be honest with my friend and let her know how you feel about the guy and how long you liked him. if she is a friend she will under stand and respect how you feel, friendship is more important than a guy
2007-03-08 02:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by claudia w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, guys are not worth losing a friendship.
Friends are Forever, Guys are Whatever...
2007-03-08 02:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by ice hcky rulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree vd porkbean.......
2007-03-08 02:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋