One of my good friends that I met about 1 year ago is (in my opinion) absolutely bonkers! She constantly talks about her ex and his best friend, and about them "talking about her". When she finally shuts up about that for 10 seconds, she is calling me b*tchy. I have witnesses saying that I wasn't. She is overly sensitive, and when my internet was being screwy, she came to my room and asked me if I had blocked her. I snapped then and told her that she should stop jumping to conclusions! She just keeps giving me attitude and when I tell her something, she gets all mad and tells me that I didn't have to be "that" way about it. She's hypocritical and paranoid. I can't just outright call her on it, because she is my RA, and can write me and my roommate up for numerous things. I just don't know what to do! She tells everyone else that it's college, not highschool, she needs to take her own advice, she's 21. Sometimes I find myself having the urge to bang my head against the wall...seriously.
2007-03-08 02:08:47 · 8 answers · asked by sem429 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
On a normal day when she's not freaking out about something I would try talking to her, but if she is really crazy then that will never work. Maybe when she comes to your room and starts talking on and on about her love life (or the lack of) tell her this isn't high school and you can't bluff your way through class like you used to and you really need to study. If that doesn't work then everytime you see her coming get up and leave, go to the "library to study." Whatever you do don't get caught up in her mind games it will only bring you down and she will ultimately be in control whether you like it or not. Good luck!
2007-03-08 02:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by klay70 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, this is a situation where since you realize she has you over a barrell, one or two things you can do and it would be worth suffering the consequenses for. You can either finally break out and say something to her and giving examples for backup, or completely ignore her. Ok, so she writes all of you up. Big deal. You aren't in a permanent situation. She sounds very childish and I agree with you on that. There's no excuse for someone to put up with that kind of behavior on a daily basis, you know? If you talk to her about it and she does threaten to write you guys up; call her on it. "Go ahead, write us up". Then, either you'll call her bluff and she'll stay mad, OR you'll call her bluff and she'll change her tune. Either way with this, you can't lose. I've had friends I've had to "check" once in awhile. Sometimes they stay and sometimes they go; you know =) She's using the RA title as power, she doesn't need it, and you can be happy later =)
2007-03-08 02:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
RA? What is that? If she is that much of a bit ch, then leave her alone. Don't hang out with her. If she gets attitude with you, tell her she doesnt' have to be "that" way about it. Don't give her the satisfaction of irritating you. You are too much of a woman to even bother with her. You worry about you and your friends, and not her!
2007-03-08 02:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would definately tell her how she makes you feel but do it gently. If you end up blowing up and doing it out of anger it could make things worse. I know it may be hard but try not to let her actions affect you so much. Also you could try avoiding her as much as possible. But definately tell her exactly how you feel. She sounds like she has major issues.
2007-03-08 02:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by leslie anne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are keen to keep her as a friend, of course you have to tell her what annoys you in her character, there is no sense to keep a friend who is driving you nuts.
You have to tell her but tell her in a very nice and diplomatic way so that she does not get mad on you. Keep your self calm and cool, pick your words carefully and tell her you point very gently avoiding any misunderstanding or disappointments.
good luck and take care.
2007-03-08 02:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by Wadjet Eye 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a "friend" like that and Im not sure how much longer we'll remain friends..its always all about her..she will msg me during the day and will never even start out saying hi or how are u..its all her...Im at home waiting for surgery and not once has she msged me and asked how i was feeling or whats going on..its always all her...i think a friendship should be that talking to each other..asking how each is doing...
im thinking maybe my friend is your friends older sister!
2007-03-08 02:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u still call her ur frnd.......nvr find a way out of asolution by hurtin urself but simply kill the problem act bluntly but smartly.......smthin that mite save ur skin as well...smthin like getin ur common frnds makin her feel ignored...let even ur frnds start feelin that she has gone crazy......so that she realises her follies cms back on track.......this solution is tried n tested.......aldbst
2007-03-08 02:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her to calm down. i'd tell her that she's acting crazy. im blunt though, i don't sugarcoat anything for anybody. if she's acting childish then tell her to grow up. it is college afterall. don't be a doormat. stand up for yourself.
2007-03-08 02:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋