I'm almost 6 weeks pregnant and lately my sex drive has been dwindling. My fiancee and I usually make love in some form or fashion on a daily basis... but I just haven't been up to it. I want to.... but I also don't. I'd say I feel up to it once every 4 or 5 days. He just cannot handle this because he is addicted to our sex. What should I do? And when or will it come back?
2007-03-08 02:05:09 · 23 answers · asked by ms.pontes 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First of all, your fiancee is going to have to learn to deal with it, because what is happening to you is NORMAL. If he doesn't understand then he needs to go the doctor with you every chance he can to learn as much as possible about the pregnancy and the effects it has on you and your body. He is going to have to learn to be sensitive to your needs and desires just as you are with his. And your sex drive WILL come back in time. Right now YOUR hormones are in overdrive and HIS are not. My goodness, sex is not everything! Don't worry, you will be fine and so will he. Right now the focus needs to be on a healthy pregnancy. The needs of the child are priority now.
I wish you the best!
2007-03-08 02:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Goober W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giood luck. I wish I could tell you to have a glass of red wine but given your circumstances that would be bad advice. Try watching an 'inspirational video' or reading something suggestive. Sometimes that can work. My kids are 8,10 and 13. My sex drive still isn't back. (Not on aregular basis anyway) I need a little assistance to get motivated most of the time. Hormones and motherhood make it a bit of a struggle. Keeping a happy and loving relationship with your fiancee will be worth a little extra effort. It benefits the whole family if daddy is kept happy too.
2007-03-08 02:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could offer you a better answer- but with each of my kids it would come and go- my sex drive would be there one day and then the next I would be a crying fool who would freak out if I was even looked at the wrong way. I would take articles from the internet on lacking sex drive and email them to my husband so he would get off my back. Sometimes it worked and sometimes it did not- Lots of times I ended up just faking it to get it over with so he would leave me alone for a day or so. I would say to just be patient- some women get a crazy sex drive at 4 mos pregnant and that can last till the end. If not you should really have a long talk with your man and perhaps buy him a bottle of Wet to take care of himself.
2007-03-08 02:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by ReanneDupris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might not come back til after the baby... Mine went away for a couple of weeks during the beginning of pregnancy-- and I really had to change my thinking.. Now should be the time that you enjoy sex b/c Hey, you can't get pregnant! However, you man better get used to not getting any-- b/c after the baby comes, the sex life doesn't exist for atleast a month! (Maybe even more b/c you will be tired, could deal w/ depression, and if you are like me-- you are swearing not to have any more kids for the time being!)
2007-03-08 02:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by Bio Instructor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth, it may or may not come back in your pregnancy! Every woman is different! I did feel like that and by 4 months, I became very sexual and even had sex dreams!!!!! Hormones in pregnancy do these things! Your fiancee will probably have to just be patient with you! You are going through changes to make this life! But, it will probably increase in a few months! Best wishes and talk to him about this and maybe find other ways to please him, but he needs to understand your changes now! Best wishes!
2007-03-08 02:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by whoa,3boys! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling...I hate to tell you but it may not come back till after baby or way later in your pregnancy!!!
My hubby and I used to have sex at least one a day!!! When I got pregnant...we haven't had sex in months, and months!!! My man is so great about it...he knows how attracted I am too him, but I feel like a huge cow!!!! I am 34 weeks...I told him can he make it two more months, and then I will be back to my old self!!!
I do help him in other ways when I am up to it...but honestly...we just cuddle and kiss, nothing more and have for months!!! All men love sex...and I know he misses me, but a man who loves you will understand!!!
2007-03-08 02:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its different for all women. Some women have a high sex drive while theyre pregnant. however When i was pregnant i didnt want sex after my 5th month at ALL until after the baby was gone. I did anyway but ts like i was just laying there wishing he'd get off me. So i suggest you just tell him to be patient and wait till you're ready
2007-03-08 02:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy*Black*Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem you speak of is normal , but if your so called boyfriend would just be a little patient,
and just wait until the baby is out before he tries to anything else,
making love and sex drives are not the same thing,
right now your body had dedicated itself to the finished product,
once he comes into the world your drive will come back strong, just be patient.
2007-03-08 02:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by t-bone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its becuase of all your emotions going all crazy lol. my husband just didnt take no for an answer. We had 3 kids so he eventually knew what to do. if he continues kissing you or doing whatever turns you on you'll get into the mood nad than eventually will always be in the mood. until your uncomfortably big lol. just dont let yourself feel insecure cause your beautiful and that will keep your drive away for a long time. your going to be going through so many changes and it is so easy to start feeling bad about yourself. goo dluck
2007-03-08 02:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey, mine went at around 5 weeks and hasn't come back yet. im now 29 weeks! He will just have to accept that u are pregnant and don't feel like it!! If he cannot understand that then maybe u are with the wrong man
2007-03-08 02:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋