My mom just found out I'm almost 6 months pregnant. And she wants me to do the stupidest thing...?

Question

She wants me to lie to planned parent hood and say im 3 months so i could get an abortion. i told her im not about to liee to them because i can feel the baby moving inside and i dont want to hurt my body like that. And i told her that i cant do that because its tooo late but she thinks im making an excuse to keep the baby. what do i do? btw im 16.

Answer 1

come on now they work in this line everyday. do you really think they can't look at you and examine you and know? If you didn't want a baby then you shouldn't have laid down with out birth control in the first place

Answer 2

I record the Abortion Data for my state, and we have 3 planned parenthood locations. I see it all the time on the forms where the girl say that she had her period two months ago, and the doctor does an ultrasound which shows 17 weeks gestation. They check, and they know what is going on regardless of what patients tell them.

I was pregnant at 16 and had my son at 17. It's not easy, but it is do-able. I work for the state, I'm 1 year away from having my RN, and I don't use state assistance.

Being that you are 6 months, I assume that you have had some time to think about what you want to do. If are looking into adoption, that is a wonderful option, and one of the greatest gifts you can give to a person. If that is not for you (wasn't for me) then look into your options. I found a Christian Charity where single moms have free childcare while they are in school. They make this work, by having each mom volunteer for 3 hours a week. Having that was a true blessing.

Good luck with what you decide to do!

Answer 3

An abortion at 6mnths is very harmful to your body. Planned parenthood will probably due an ultrasound and figure out your not 3 mnths. Your probably showing also, women don't show at 3mnths. Lying may get you into a lot of trouble. You need to make the decision on whether to keep the baby or give it up for adoption abortion is not an option. And if your mother is so sick that she would tell you to murder your baby then I would leave her out of this decision. I'm not saying abortion is wrong but you are carrying a baby not a fetus. Right now worry about getting prenantal care. Just because you made the mistake of getting pregnant so young doesn't mean that innocent child has to die. I got pregnant at 16, had myson at 17 and now I'm 18 with a 13mnth old little boy who is my world. Babies are a blessing not a burden. Make the best of the situation. I am doing fine in my own house taking care of my child with his father and have custody of his 10yr old and 6 wk old nieces. Anything can be done.There are many of childless couples out there that would love to take great care of your baby if thats what you want. My mother also suggested abortion to me at 7 wks pregnant but I told her no and she respected that. My son is also her world now. Hopefully your mother will drop this sick idea and learn to love the fact that she will be the grandmother of a beautiful baby. I wish you good luck and if you want to talk more e-mail me at [e-mail]. Best wishes

Answer 4

At this it is too late to abort, but I have to wonder why YOU waited so long. You should have gotten the abortion when you first knew. I don't think your mother is stupid, just that she is panicing and not thinking clearly. She loves you and doesn't want you to ruin your life (being a 16 year old unwed mother will in fact ruin your life). I can understand, if I had a 16 year old daughter, I would do anything I could to convince her to get the abortion.

The best thing for you to do now is to arrange to put it up for adoption. I would arrange it so that they take the baby immediately after it is born, so you never get to see or hold it. There's less chance of your feelings getting in the way.

Keeping this baby would be the absolute worst decision you could possibly make. You will be kissing away any dreams or goals that you had for your life. Your mother knows this, and is desparate to spare you from this, that's why she said what she did. You're lucky that your mom loves you that much.

Once you give this baby up, for it's own good as well as yours, you need to get yourself on birth control ASAP, and be responsible from now on. Always make the guy use a condom, and stay on your birth control to keep this from happening again.

Answer 5

You could lie to planned parenthood until you're blue in the face but they WILL find out you are 6 months pregnant and then they will refuse to do the abortion because it is too late.

The best thing to do is to consult planned parenthood about your options OTHER than abortion...seriously consider adoption. Your child will get a loving, secure home. At 16 you are just not mentally or financially ready to be a parent. The absolute best thing to do for the baby is adoption.

Answer 6

I'm really sure they will know you are more than 3 months pregnant when they look at you and might turn you away then. I would say tell your mom you are going to have the baby, but put it up for adoption. Then have the baby & put it up for adoption. It doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you a responsible young adult, to realize that you can not at 16 take care of a newborn child, & still go to school/live. I think adoption is the right answer for you at this point. Good luck!

Answer 7

Well, even if you lie- they can do an ultrasound and determine how far along you are... On top of that, if they do abort and realize the baby isn't in the first trimester-- then you have additional problems to worry about. Plus, if you told them you were 3 months, chances are they won't abort anyways, b/c most places refuse to do it after 12 weeks.

Honestly, having a baby right now would be very hard-- doesn't seem like your mom is one to help ya take care of him/ her either... So, I would check into adoption... Several ppl would be willing to pay for medical bills if you'd give them the baby-- Check out this link for more help: http://adoptionnetwork.com/birthmother-unplanned-pregnancy/free-services-for-pregnant-birthmothers.html?gclid=CK6kx-XB5YoCFSI-UAodkyy0cA

Answer 8

I think you are doing exactly the right thing. Stand up to your mother and don't let her talk you into something you don't want to do. It is your decision!!!
Adoption is a wonderful option. There are soooo many childless couples out there, who would love to give a child the life it wants, needs and deserves. You could do an open adoption, where you get to choose and meet the adoptive parents. That being said, it doesn't mean that you don't want your child, you just want to provide it with a better life than you can give her right now. Think about it, it is sooo much better than abortion ( not that it's too late anyways ). Everyone gains a better life in the end, especially your child!!!

Answer 9

Continue to want to carry that baby to term. Your mom is probably in shock- that is normal for a parent of a teen that just have found out is pregnant. I counsel young women/girls that are pregnant- Your baby is moving, your baby's heart was beating at 3 weeks after conception. Consider placing for adoption. You would remember giving life to your child- I am adopted and have 2 adopted teenagers and all of us are thankful that our birth moms chose life. I do not know if your mom would email me, but I would love to talk to her- Tell her I care about more than the baby- I care about you. There are many risks to you- the physical can be excessive bleeding- torn uterus- higher risk of breast cancer- infections- and you can have guilt and shame for taking the life of your child for years to come. Also you may not be able to get pregnant later when you want too, or have miscarriages. You are 6 months- that would mean a partial birth abortion- which I will let you look up on online if you want. It is horrible!! An abortion even at 3 months or before kills. Your mom is just upset at the moment. Let her know what can happen to her daughter if you have an abortion- that may change her mind. Again if she wants to talk have her email me. God bless- and hang in there!!!

Answer 10

I'm sorry, but what your mom is asking you to do is just plain wrong. Even if you lied, any abortion doctor is going to be smart enough to figure out that you are more than 3 months pregnant.

She cannot make you get an abortion. No one can. If you feel threatened by her, then you need to get to a crisis pregnancy center asap. They can give you options on adoption and if needed can probably find you a safe place to stay.

I'm proud of you for wanting to keep your baby. Don't ever let anyone try to force you into doing something you don't want to do.

Answer 11

WHAT!! Okay you sound more mature than your mom, yeah a baby is a big responsibility and she's right about that, but that's a precious life in there, and um you can't lie to drs lol, they'll see your 6 months any way, so your moms stupid on that part, its your life, keep it, go to a planned parenthood or whateevr its called to get help with the baby, there are things that'll give you money and help, do not get an abortion because of your mother!! You already feel it inside of you, its a mircale please do not get an abortion.