Guy friend question....??

Question

My best friend wants me to ask this question for her. This guy friend of hers she has been talking to for two years continues to tell her he is single BUT the other night she was going to be in his town (100 miles away) and he said to her if my roommate was not in town you could spend the night. I told her it seems to me his "roommate" is actually a female, possibly a girlfriend or maybe that he is gay and doesn't want her to know. He is kind of femimine. What is everyones opinion...she doesn't really know what to think and is afraid to bring it up to him because they are just friends but it bothers her why he would need to hide something from her. Thanks

Answer 1

I suggest NOT bringing anything up - the truth will "come out" of the closet sooner or later. Tell your friend not to get her expectations/hopes too high.

When your friend visits this guy, just take it easy & PLAY IT BY EAR. By the way this guy treats her, she'll know if he's interested in her or not. If she goes to his flat, look carefully at the apartment - you can usually tell if a girl lives in it or not.

A) Roommate = Girlfriend?
I highly doubt there's a girlfriend - otherwise, he would've just said "No", and made up a better excuse: "My roommates are already going to have friends over that weekend." Girlfriends don't frequently go out of town and leave their BFs behind; plus, it'd be a real hassle for this guy to hide all the Girlfriend evidence in the apartment.

B) The Guy = Gay?
Perhaps, but not necessarily. Not all "kind of feminine" guys are gay. Your friend just doesn't have enough information to make that assumption just yet.

If your friend can't really stop thinking about this, she can always ask the guy something like: "Why does it bother your roommate if other people stay over?" Put the question in a way that doesn't accuse the guy of "hiding" anything - because perhaps, he ISN'T hiding anything.

Answer 2

oh my god i was in this situation about two years ago my best friend is gay but i didnt know! i lived with him for a year and a half and he basically lived two lives and i really didnt know, we had a falling out then became friends again and he told me he was gay it doesnt bother me at all we are still good friends. i dont think she should ask him he will tell her in the end if he is, i dont think he would not let her in his house if he had a gf that doesnt really make sense. the only positive of asking him if he is, is that he'd feel so much more comfortable around her and gay people have the best social life i love going out with him we have really good nights. she also needs to tell him that it wouldnt affect there friendship if he was gay! maybe write him a letter!! hope it all works out!!

Answer 3

THAT very well could be either of those assumtions, but sometimes u don't want roommates to hear you either or maybe its his and teh roommates rules that noone stays teh night on certain nights. ect.. sounds very fishy to though. i'd be asking just friends or more.

Answer 4

ask him. honesty is always the best policy. a good friend will tell her the truth & a liar she can do without.