ok well...my friend and her boyfriend are 13...they decided to have sex! so, i said something to a teacher! and they said they wouldnt say nuttin to her about me telling her. so they said that someone saw them go in th elocker rooms together...and they called her dad! and now my friend has a horrible at home...she can only eat peanut and jelly sandwiches...can only eat on the floor and do her homework on the floor cuz 'tramps' do stuff in beds ...oh and she has to sleep on the floor....also...i DIDNT call her dad...and everyone at school is saying that i did and everyone hates me and...i dont know wut to do...and I CANT tell her that i was the one that said something to the teachers...but i was really worrried about so i had to say something! please help
2007-03-08 01:53:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
also now...she CANNOT stop crying and i feel terrible...OMG...i have no idea wut to do...i feel sick to my stomach...!!
2007-03-08 01:55:51 · update #1
ALSO SHE DOESNT KNOW THAT I WAS THE ONE THAT TOLD THE TEACHER
2007-03-08 02:01:29 · update #2
I think you did the right thing. You want the best for your friend and that's why you did it. You may want to talk to your friend about this and tell her why you did it. Try to make her understand you did it because you care and you were looking after her. Also, tell her you DID NOT call her dad, and that you feel bad about the situation leading to problems at home.
If she does not understand (or at least try to), there' s eally nothing you can do. This was her choice - a bad one - but HER choice. Do your part by tell ing her how you feel about it and why you did what you did - after that, it all depends on her.
2007-03-08 02:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Java Chip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you learned your lesson to keep your nose out of other peoples business!
But that sounds terrible about her sleeping on the floor and eating on the floor, is there child abuse going on? I would be concerned over that.
If I was you and concerned for her safety, I'd call the police (not the emergency line) but ask them "I told a teacher about my friend having sex at 13 years old in the school locker, and now my friends father knows and she is a getting abused" The police might just check out the situation of what's going on in that house!
2007-03-08 10:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. You tried to protect her virginity and save her from a major mistake. She is mad at you because she wants someone to blame for what she got in trouble for. She told everyone that it was you to get you back. I am very glad that you had the guts to stop this. If they had done that, her dad would find out anyway. She could get pregnant or stuff like that. You protected her and she just doesn't want to admit it.
2007-03-08 09:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by tisdale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is her problem and not yours. You are feeling guilty because you said something. Bottom line is the fact that she IS too young to be having sex and if her dad found out and he decides to punish her then that is their family affair and none of your business. You played your part not buck up and take responsibility for what you did and quit worrying about what other people think.
2007-03-08 09:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Keenu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing however, I think the punishment her parents have dished out is way too harsh....she is being cast out of the family circle and is being labelled a tramp...I can't see how such treatment is doing her any good.
Speak to an adult whom you have utmost trust in. Explain everything like you just did here....your friend is too young for sex but, she is being emotionally and mentally abused for it.
That's how I see it.
2007-03-08 10:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! 13 years old!? What is her problem!? Anyway, just take the time to explain to her that you didn't tell her dad. Explain that everybody is just saying because you knew, you told her dad. If she doesn't believe you, do the old "Who are you going to believe, me or them?" And maybe get her a counseler! The girl is 13!
2007-03-08 10:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
....her dad is crazy.. sex isn't so bad.. that you limit someone to what they can eat, and make them do everything on the floor. that's sick and he needs help. you didn't do anything wrong... but why would u tell a teacher? were u trying to help her? or just wanted to tell somoene?
2007-03-08 09:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by courtneyp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. first off not to be a butthole but what the hell are you doing sticking your nose in your friend's sex life. friends watch out for each other but they don't rat on each other. if you were worried about your friend, then you should have talked to her about it. not a teacher. sex is not public information. besides if the guy is thirteen he probably can't even bust a nut to make her pregnant anyway. get a life, stay out your friends business. if she wants to have sex, that is her decision, not yours.
2007-03-08 10:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing, she was too young to have sex, if she is really going through that at home that is called abuse,, tell your parents, tell a teacher, they will and are supposed to keep that a secret who told
2007-03-08 09:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well this is wha ti would do i would go talk to her parents and explain to them that she made a mistake and people make mistakes everyday and they are forgiven also you have to be honest with your friend tell her the truth. its important not to keep secrets from your friends and if she doesnt forgive you she isnt a very good friend
2007-03-08 10:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by Tara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋