How do i face the reality?

Question

i want the best of everything ...when i cant get something i want, i just day dream about it..i dont want to accept i cant have something cuz then it will make me feel so suicidal...like i always want to be the most beautiful in the class, the most inteligent, the strongest....when i think im not the best, i just wait for the day i will be!!...iv never had a bf cuz i feel no one of them is good enough for me!...i really need to change cuz im tired of myself..i know happiness is not about having the best or being the best ..i just want to feel better..to be strong enough to see the things the way they REALLY are. i dont want to live in the dreams!..help me?!

Answer 1

Alls I can tell you is that you'll never find happiness demanding certain responses out of people. The reality is that if you put all of your attention on what others think, you're not looking to yourself with the will to change what you want to change and develop yourself in the direction that you want to end up. We weren't born into our destinies, we create them ourselves by the amount of effort put into them, by the choices we make every day, and the amount of courage we summon in order to see that we carry through with what we know we should do. The only power we truly have is the power to direct ourselves, our perceptions, our actions, our habits and characters.

Answer 2

you're already helping yourself...you made the 1st step by saying u have a problem and that you aren't perfect. you articulated the problem well so u know what the issue is. Some people have higher expectations than others and there is nothing wrong with having a lot of self worth and waiting for the right person to match with. I would just open up a little more to different people who still strive for excellence like you do. Be patient you will find someone when the time is right.

Answer 3

It's not that your not in touch with reality, it's that your reality is different than the norm, you have high expectations of yourself and the people in your life.
The suicidal tendencies is what scares me here, this is something you need help with, this is you being too hard on yourself for some reason, whether it is that you think you will be letting yourself down if you settle for less or whether you think you will be letting others down if you are not the best is something you should talk to a counselor about.
Dreams are good, suicidal tendencies are not. Talk to someone who can help in your community, whether it's a parent, teacher, counselor.

Answer 4

So long as you do realize that Hope will never happen you'll be ok. Hope is something weak people do in an attempt to salvage something bad in their life, or the life of others. Being someone who takes action, or someone who doesen't rely on anyone else is the logic you must understand.

Waiting around, Hoping things will get better is never going to solve anything, unless you rely 100% on yourself and never rely on someone else to help you accomplish things you'll never really grasp the concept of what you really need. To make a choice, to choose, and never sit there and hope something will get better is how you should take action.

People these days can't be trusted, you must rely on yourself or you will always be let down.

Answer 5

here is the math...... reality=fantasy x effort

If you make effort you can raise to your destiny
If you make none you will fall to your fate

Remember though your dream is but a concept, it is a only a seed, but until you grow it, you really won't know its flavor. You willing to face death, then be brave enough to face life. Confusion doesn't exist. we really always know what to do. Confusion is the smoke screen we throw up to avoid effort. Once you face yourself and realize its fine to want everything, you just gotta work for it, SO.....

So lay on your *** and be lazy, maybe it will all come to you, however if the waiting gets boring either work for it, or kill yourself... works for me!!!

Answer 6

I'm blaming your parents for this one. Kids grow up thinking their **** doesn't stink because that is the way the matured. Just stop being selfish and you'll be good to go. You say no one is good enough for you, but what makes you so great anyway. Everyone has faults and everyone has their perfections. You have to balance them out.

Answer 7

If you want something, dreaming about it is not enough. Although dreams are needed, because they inspire change, action is a MUST. But you have to set realistic goals. Never give up. Action, action , action!

Answer 8

You need to get in touch with what really matters to you, and set some goals.

Answer 9

The only dream you need to concentrate on is the one in which you are yourself, be passionate about something
that you want to do and all the rest will follow.......................

Answer 10

don't reality sucks, just live your own life and have some fun