if you are having money problems and already working 40 hours a week, should a stay at home mum of 2 find a job to help pay the bills? even if it's only a couple hours a week.
talking about an evening job or a week end job while i'm at home looking after the kids.
2007-03-08 01:31:31 · 8 answers · asked by mtm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
been married 3 years, with 3 yr old, and 18 month old. just had a house build
2007-03-08 18:08:13 · update #1
something my husband forgot to mention is that i already do work a minimum of 3 paid hrs a week, it only pays $60 for those 3 hrs, but i do do something. and i often do more than the minimum hrs required.
2007-03-10 22:12:34 · update #2
I'm not sure if I'd call it a luxury considering the cost of daycare (that could be saving them a mint depending on the area). Having said that though if there is work she could do for a few hours when you are home with the kids or work that she could do from home so she doesn't have to leave the kids that would be great as they are just going to keep getting more expensive to raise.
2007-03-08 01:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the couple....and the age of the kids. We managed to keep me home full time for a full year after each child was born. I went back to work part-time for personal reasons, but the truth is, after you add in the cost of day care and day care expenses (they require bumper pads, diapers and other supplies in excess of what you would normally use, snacks, more clothes etc.) I was losing $25 a week to go to work. Becareful that money doesn't become a personal problem for the two of you.... money just is. Sometimes you have a lot and sometimes you dont. There are only two solutions...make more or spend less. Take a good look at your budget...write everything down for 30 days. Then figure out your top 5 priorities (your relationship should be in there somewhere). When my husband and I did this we found there were lots of things we thought we SHOULD have (like vacations) but they just didn't fit into our prioirities with small kids at home. You will also have to look at your income. Is your hourly wage reasonable to raise two kids? They get more expensive as they get bigger. Its not about forcing her into work...its about the two of you looking at the options and making a decision together..... you can choose to go to the food pantry, use the community clothing pantry and apply for heap for a time...if your kids are under 5 you might qualify for WIC and headstart pre-school, you might also qualify for health insurance coverage for them. All those things come into the decision. When the two of you are choosing, together, to solve this problem you will grow closer together. A common goal, a common effort and willingness to try is all you can hope for...but if one of you railroads the other into something you dont want you will be headed for disaster. Remember too, that y ou can make a short term plan and a long term plan. Maybe she wants to be home 3 more months....or something. Make this problem something that enriches your marriage and makes you work together better not something that unravels the two of you. God bless .
2007-03-08 03:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! There is no reason she shouldn't get a job for a few hours a night or weekend if you are there to watch the kids so she can help out with the bills. In fact any self respecting woman would want to get a job to contribute to the household in this situation.
2007-03-08 01:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by CupCake 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. She could also throw her efforts into making the house run more efficiently. She could research the best deals for the stuff you buy and how to cut costs for utilities. It's amazing what you can save and how when you put your mind to it.
Check out how this family paid off $22,000 in debt in 5 years with an average yearly income of $20,000. http://www.livingonadime.com/authors.htm
2007-03-08 05:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely. If the money is needed then she should contribute. Being a stay at home mom is a luxury that should only be indulged if the financial needs of the family are met.
2007-03-08 01:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should my husband has said that if he has to take a second job he would because he is totally against me working but he really doesn't have to get a second job i just watch what i spend and cut back if i have to.
2007-03-08 01:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah she could work, but daycare is really expensive so she would have to find a job that she would make enough to pay daycare and it still be worth working.
2007-03-08 01:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! she needs to get off her butt and help.
2007-03-08 01:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by kayzarty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋