I told my wife that the lack of sex in our relationship was no longer acceptable; that I had been understanding long enough and that she needed to change her attitude.
One of the things she asked was did I want to find sex outside our marriage. Of course I said no without any hesitation, but should I have said yes?
2007-03-08 01:17:30 · 12 answers · asked by Bart Simpson 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Alaney R
I do love my wife. That's why I haven't left her!
And sex IS a very important part of an adult monagomous relationship.
2007-03-08 02:14:34 · update #1
You should hve gotten mad at her for asking that question. Turn it around and ask "Is that what YOU really want me to do?"
I'm really good at arguing.
2007-03-08 01:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If lack of sex is a problem for either of you it needs to be addressed and hopefully resolved. You did the right thing by bringing it up. Keeping problems bottled up can cause explosions later. You also did the right thing saying no you don't want other women. Make sure you tell her you love her and want only her. Try to get er tell you how she is feeling, and actually listen to what she has to say.
2007-03-08 10:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by bugs280 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! For some reason is she feeling insecure about herself? Has she put on weight recently or does she have a health issue that is keeping her from wanting to have sex? Try to be understanding and get to the bottom of what she's really feeling. If necessary have her get a medical check up to see if there's something the doctor can give her to "perk" her up. good luck
2007-03-08 09:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by GrnEyedBlondeSwede 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you did the right thing. It may be a problem she is having that has nothing to do with you. Is she going through menopause if not she needs to see a doctor to find out why her sex drive is so long especially if she is under 40. Could be stress, could be a medical condition. If it is nothing physcially wrong could be emotionally, mental.
2007-03-08 09:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you are being completely wrong if you are. You married your wife, you are suppose to love her all the time, if you aren't having sex get over it. There is more to love than that.
2007-03-08 09:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by Alaney Rain 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DUDE NEVER SAY YES. Seriously though, maybe you could use some counseling as a couple.
2007-03-08 19:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should never say yes to that question. The downside far outweighs the upside!!!
2007-03-08 09:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ithink you chose the safe answer. i have the same problem with my wife but never confronted her like you have. i hope it has helped you, even if you are now sleeping on the couch.
2007-03-08 09:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by mtm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say yes and you're looking into a divorce....if you are looking forward to having sex five times a day then i suggest you go find someone else...girls wanna have space to breathe..
2007-03-08 09:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by Marie Q 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think she asked u a loaded question and u had a good answer
2007-03-08 09:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Jim G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋