Can infatuation turn into nothing? I was completely head over heels for my boyfriend for the first 3 months. He could do nothing wrong and everything he did was perfect.
We have now been dating for about 6 months and I feel as though something is wrong and is missing. I have constant anxiety about "what if i am falling out of love with him." I dont trust myself. I dont know if its because I have been in dramatic/abusive relationships up until now but there is no reason why I could see I would be feeling this way.
All of my friends and family say that I seem most myself when I am around him. They think that this relationship is different from any past ones I may have had…..So I don’t know what that says….
I still enjoy spending time with him and being intimate with him but for the 1st 3 months I KNEW he was the guy I was going to marry and have kids with and now I cant say that anymore....
Am I commitment phobic, is this just my anxiety, or am I really falling out of love with him?
My ex who was a dramatic abusive partner may possibly still have a tiny piece of my heart but its been 2 years so I dont know why it hasnt gone away.
I want to feel the love I felt for him when we were 1st together. Can infatuation just end like that? There is nothing that I can think of that could have possibly changed my feelings?!?!? This is the first guy I actually trust but I feel like i trust him cause maybe I just dont care...I dont know how to tell and I dont want to break up with him......
Thanks!
2007-03-08 00:56:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If this guy is good to you then whats the problem. However, I have had a similar issue. For some reason your attracted to people that hurt you and when a good guy comes along your scared because it's something your not used to. you'll be ok. that how i was when I met my husband 4 years ago I tried my best to think of reasons we shouldn't talk to each other because i should try to work it out with my ex but over time I realized that my ex wasn't what I realyy wanted I was just kinda comfortable there even know I wasn't truly happy with him. So my advice would be give it some time and don't let a good thing go that you may regret later.
2007-03-08 01:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by shells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a myriad of problems going on in this relationship. First of all, it is NORMAL to be infatuated at the beginning of a relationship as you can't "see" anything that your partner does wrong. Second, your ex will always have a tiny piece of your heart so don't worry about that as it is also NORMAL. If you enjoy spending time with him but do not feel the love that you first did it is entirely possible that you have fallen out of love, which is also NORMAL. No matter what your friends and family say, you have to go by your feelings and yours alone. Talk to this guy, tell him how you feel, you might be surprised at his response. If the relationship is going nowhere it is time to get out as it probably isn't going to get any better, so staying in this relationship is CRAZY. Abuse damages a person not only at the time it occurs but also in all future relationships. Keep that in mind and don't expect love to fall into your lap. Leave your heart open for the right guy for YOU.
2007-03-08 01:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by nancy w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just finished the "honeymoon" stage of a relationship; where he can do NO wrong and it is common in pretty much every relationship.
Now, if you felt infatuated, you weren't necessarily crazy about him, but the idea of the successful relationship. Talk to anyone that has been in a relationship and/or marriage for an extended period of time (6 months is merely a drop in the bucket) and they will tell you that there are highs and lows in every couple's life.
You have to ask yourself why you feel the way you do. Lost the spark after 6 months? Maybe he just wasn't right for you...or hae things just been stale lately? Routine?
Talk to him and see how he feels. We all try to impress our significant other during the first few months and maybe you both don't put as much effort in as you once did.
2007-03-08 01:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is normal. it seems like you have most of your feelings in order but you question your decision making oprocess more than anything. It it ok to make mistakes. If you want to know if he is the one or the ststus of your relationship, tell him all about what you just wrote. If he talks to you about it and you make it through then that is a good sign. If he freaks out and argues or gets upset. You need to let him go. Bottom line: do not settle and don't be afriad to keep looking until you find the one.
2007-03-08 01:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is a short period of time. You barely knew who he was when you decided he was the one. Is it possible that the more you know about him, the less perfect he is?
Don't forget, when we first start dating someone, the newness seems wonderful. It always wears off to some degree. If something is left after the 'honeymoon' period, that's when you know that it's a long term thing.
Sounds like infatuation and it wore off.
2007-03-08 01:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of sounds like he's boring to you. Maybe you like more drama in a relationship. Its normal because it creates more passion but those are not the relationships that usually are considered healthy ones. I dont know how old you are, but im guessing you are a teenager. I'd suggest seeing other people for awhile. If it was meant to be, you will find him in your life again.
2007-03-08 01:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first three months things were exiting and new. They're not anymore. Your getting comfortable. That will happen with anyone.xxxx
2007-03-08 01:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by Londonbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,he is not for you for a long term relationship. just use him as a boy toy. use him for your sexual desires only.
2007-03-08 01:20:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to see a doctor about this, your problem is in need of more help than you can get on the internet
2007-03-08 01:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crazy, for typing all that
2007-03-08 02:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋