i know ive asked this question before but ive failed to get the answer right if you were raped and got pregnant by a man who killed your dad and twin brother during the incidence would you still deliver her mum is against abortion becouse she says she might loose her too yet shes the only family shes left with my friend doesnt want to deliver a child out of wed lock more over a bastard if it were you what would you do she needs your solutions becouse she longs to die,her first experience in sex was rape
2007-03-08 00:32:29 · 18 answers · asked by Mariela 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
This is very tragic and abortion is an issue for most unplanned pregnancies. Professional counseling is needed for the family due to mourning the loss of loved ones and dealing with an unwanted pregnancy and the rape. One thing to keep in mind is although the child was concieved through a rape the child is innocent and a life. There are many families looking to adopt babies that can provide loving homes. Depending on how your friend feels about being pregnant and her beliefs about abortion this will play a major role in her decison to choose life or abort. Please keep in mind if your friend doesn't believe in abortion and is confused due the conception occuring from rape she will most likely feel guilt and depression by choosing abortion. On the other hand if she believes in abortion there will most likely be no feelings of guilt or the possibility of her suffering from depression later in life. I can't tell her what to do but delivering the baby and putting the infant up for adoption seems the best choice and she probably wouldn't feel guilty or wrong later in life like she would if abortion was chosen. Also now a days children being born out of wed lock is not uncommon and isn't frowned on like it was years ago and also she didn't have a choice for becoming pregnancy because she was raped. However she does have a choice to deliver the baby, keep the child, or put the child up for adoption. Her and her unborn baby are innocent and were both helpless in this situation. I hope this was helpful.
Sincerely,
Tanya
2007-03-08 04:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by psychologist430 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im sorry to hear that about your friend. Reading all of the advise, I cant believe at a time like this you would push your pro life believe. This poor young girl has to put HER life aside, go through full term pregnancy (and its not like she had consentual sex and nows needs to deal with consequences) psycological pain knowing everyday this child growing inside her has a bloodline of a rapist and a killer. WHy should this poor girl who is a child herself suffer? Let her get an abortion. This girl deserve to live her childhood. Now to those who say give it up for adoption, is it something you have done personally or something you think is easier to do. Well let me tell you this, its not that easy to give up a child that you gave life to inside of you and nurished for 9 months than just give up. Think about it! I am a strong believer in PRO CHOICE. I dont believe that abortion is the answer for birth control, but at the same time, this was not this girls fault that she got pregnant. I hope the best for your friend. And dont let anyone else tell her that she is wrong or selfish about whatever desicion she makes. Good luck
2007-03-08 07:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by bella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would abort. no woman should have to carry around a fetus that she doesnt want, let alone if that fetus is the product of rape. If she is too young to get an abortion without parental consent and her mother doesnt agree, she can put the baby up for adoption, but the bad part about that is she will have to go through the pregnancy, which will be emotionally trying.
2007-03-08 05:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by ☭ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the cases where I believe in abortion.. in this instance.. why would she want to bare the memory of carrying a child everyday from someone who raped her and then killed her father and brother. This would make her insane having to go through this and knowing that she does not want the child will only make her not take care of herself correctly in hopes she would miscarry. I know the Mother is extremely afraid of losing her daughter now.. but she needs to see what this will do to her daughter at the same time. I only believe in abortion when it is a medical emergency or rape. Tell your friend to do what she thinks it right.. not what others think.. including her Mother.
2007-03-08 02:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a terrible situation to experience and I'm sorry she had to experience it. But the baby she is carrying is innocent and has a right to life. This could be something good out of a bad situation! If she feels she could not bond with the baby there is always adoption and she could contact the baby when its older.
2007-03-08 03:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by sarah2mee 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If she has an abortion it'll make things that much worse for her. If I were her I'd carry to term.
My dad died in 2000, my sister was really depressed, and when I gave birth to my son in 2001, it actually helped her...she had a little nephew to dote on.
Having that baby may actually help!
2007-03-08 02:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would go to the cops and tell them I was raped. I would have the baby and give it to another family that can't have kids. Or I would move far away from that place.
2007-03-08 02:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by wetcat2009 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
TELL HER TO HAVE IT AND WHEN THE TIME COMES FOR HER TO HAVE THE BABY IF ITS TO HARD FOR HER TO KEEP IT THEN FIND A FAMILY THAT WILL LOVE AND CARE FOR THE CHILD AS SHE WOULD THERE ARE A LOT OF ADULTS WHO WANT CHILDREN BUT CANT SO TELL HER TO TRY THAT
2007-03-08 02:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by xxrlhoodratxx 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
♥ i don't think i could get an abortion but i prob wouldn't want the kid either. i prob would give it up for adoption. tell your friend peeps on the internet feel her pain. ♥
2007-03-08 04:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
look tell your friend to have the kid. it aint his fault. the kid desirves a chance to live. if she don't want it then tell her to put it for adoption. tell her not to abort. cause if she does she may die and put her mother in a lot of pain and i don't think she wants to do that.
2007-03-08 04:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋