what can you do if you wanna get away from your life. your reality and everything familiar to you?

Question

people. places. where you live. the country. the city. the town. i feel the desire to escape it all..find a new life somewhere else, i nice little home somewhere, with a nice girlfriend.>>instead, i claim benifits, battle with borderline personality disorder, and other mental health problems, live in a small, council flat, im waiting for therapy. my cpn doesnt no when this will be...ive socially isolated myself, and only go out when i have to...i feel a sense of entrapment. like illl never be able to work out of these circumstances..like a feeling of hopelessness, helplessness. im 29 and am growing tired of this existance..i have no friends to turn to. and phone crisis lines regularly..and sometimes even argue and lose my temper with the people on their..because i feel they dont listen or dont talk back to me. when im trying to pour out my problems..i resent people who dont have my problems and who have a life and who dont feel like me...what am i going to do? theres no quick fix out

this situation

i live in manchester england. im 29 and have never worked cos of my problems.. i wanna leave all this

i DONT think people understand, i dont wanna take a walk in the park. get it. i wanna leave manchester. everything i know and recognise. i want another life, with a nice girl. a nice house, a good job. to emmegrate. for as long as i stay trapped in this existance, in a council flat in manchester, on benifits, i WILL, REJECT it. and will probally end up dying early to escape this life i dont want

Answer 1

pack a suitcase,,get a plane ticket and adios life!!

Answer 2

You are not alone in the way you feel! I am 33 years old and disabled also. I have been battling chronic pain 24/7 since 1997 when I almost died in a head on car crash. The daily battle of fighting pain has also left me depressed and feeling isolated. My wife is also disabled so we rarely leave home unless absolutely necessary. I know what it feels like to just want to exchange your life with someone else. The problem is that no matter where you go , your problems go with you. I have found the best thing to do is to try to find an outlet for yourself, a hobby, something else to concentrate on. No, it doesn't fix the problem but it does help for a while. I read a lot and find that I can escape reality for awhile through a good book. I also do artwork and work with clay. Some days I can't even do these things because the pain won't allow me to. Please, just know that you are not alone. Try not to isolate yourself too much. Getting out, as hard as it is somedays, always makes me feel a bit more human and a part of something bigger. I do hope that you get the help you need soon. Until then, hang in there and never give up on having a better life in the near future.You are here for a purpose! Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Oh dear Thorn, I would like to wrap my arms around you & give you a big hug! Where you are sounds depressing! I lived in units with horrible neighbours once & it was only for my cat, dog, chooks & cockatoo that I kept sane.
Wouldn't it be great if we could just change our world to our idealic location?
Myself, it would be a picturesque cottage in the country, with a creek running through all year round & grow my own veg & never have to go to town just only if I really wanted too, not because I really have to!
But looking at it from a different angle is that there are gazillions of people just like you & alot more worse off.

A saying I believe in to 'is that where ever the man goes, the mind goes too'
I hope that has lifted you even just a little.
Always remember that you are not alone & some of us really do care!
Ladyeagle7

Answer 4

You're right there is no quick fix to your problem. Its complex and frustrating, thats why you find yourself getting angry at people. No-one can help you and no-one can tell you what to do. Only you know your circustances fully and what you're capable of. And only you can change the life you have. Everyone has times when they dream of a better life some place else. I do too. What you want to do is change your whole life and thats a big challenge for anyone! The best advice I can give you is to change one thing at a time. Instead of looking at your life as one massive problem, look at it as losts of little problems you can tackle individually. Take it one day at a time and try to improve something each day.

Answer 5

i understand life and its circumstances may sometimes make you feel the way you do, however you must learn how to deal with situations and face your fears, Dont be so hard on yourself because of your disorder, learn how to battle it and overcome it. I believe you should not deprive yourself from what life has to offer. Posting the blog you have i believe is a great first step to socializing and meeting others, next, if you are capable, you should walk around your town and breathe fresh air. i dont know of your religious beliefs either, but there is a special purpose for each and every individual on this earth, When feeling like this just remember, you are beautiful in his eyes..

Answer 6

Running away isn't the answer you only take yourself with you to the next place. try to make the best of what you have. do you have family you can talk to? Part of this illness is it wants to isolate you and make you feel cr*p about yourself. Don;t listen to your negative thinking, you're not your thoughts. How about going for a walk in the park today? Dont listen to your head talk you out of it just go! Good luck :o)

Answer 7

u can lie to urself!! or u can accept the past & move on.. ok, i understand that sometimes we wish we can entirely escape from things we dont wanna remember & be part of.. but lol!! there's no way u can "undone whats done". live here in the real world..and it means accepting who u are, what u'v done, and why u become who u are today...see things from there & vow never to get back @ things u hated the most. life is so simple..its just a matter of how u perceive things!! remember, its only "U" "URSELF" who can decide what u wanna do with ur life and that includes ur HAPPINESS!! Goodluck!!ei need a friend? count me in..above all, cling on to God- he sees everything! Have FAITH!

Answer 8

get out kiddo get out even if you don't want to.. i know how you feel.. when i got divorced all i wanted to do was watch tv and go to bed, i did'nt want to deal with anybody. when i saw familes with their kids and all happy and sh*t i just coulded take it. but i had to do out to keep inself sane.. i'd throw myself into work just to do something.. the worst times was when i was alone with my own thoughts. go to a bar sweety youse guys call it a pub...go, go even if you sit in corner just go to be around other people, break yourself in like that, your have to, i've been there and done that. christmas is hell for me.. its getting better but i lost my house, my best friend and christmas.. your not alone sweety ...go out honey go to a pub and don't drink to much and don't come back to late or momma lois is going to be mad at you haha. love you kiddo take care

Answer 9

there is probably no easy way but you know you can chat to me [e-mail],
I feel like that most of the time and i'm younger than you :-)

Answer 10

BCOM A MONK