Love or just Pleasure driven by lust?

Question

What makes the difference between mutual love and sensual love?

Answer 1

Is It Love?


Sexual attraction isn't love, but since both are powerful emotions, it's often difficult to distinguish one from the other. But just as the police find clues to a crime after the fact, lovers can often investigate their true feelings once physical desires have been satisfied and their bodies are weary from exertion.

Is it love?

Or is it sex?

After sex, you generally want to move closer to your partner or to move away. Love desires intimacy even after sexual desire has been satisfied. Sex only desires sex. Once the act is completed, the participants often crave distance. A quick kiss goodnight, a hurried goodbye, and the lovers part company, relieved to have been spared the emotional intimacy that could very well lead to love.

Most gay men are more experienced with sex than love, and may not know how to behave after a sexual encounter in which true love is a factor. Here are some do's and don'ts to consider:

If you're a smoker, your first instinct following sex may be to fire up a cigarette. Unless your bed mate has his own nicotine habit and is just as impatient to indulge it as you are, this is not the wisest move to make. Immediately after orgasm, it's time to hold your lover close, to cuddle, kiss, and catch your breath together. Moving away at this time sends the message that your priority is the gratification of your physical needs. Whether you meant to or not, you've reduced your partner to the status of a sexual aid, a mere dildo, or a substitute for your hand whose only purpose is getting you off.

If that was your only interest in sharing the sheets, and your partner knew it and had a similar goal, no one is likely to get hurt. You've both accomplished what you set out to do. But if you're in love with your partner, or your partner is in love with you, injured feelings could be the result, and the sex that should have brought you closer together may drive you apart instead.

Once the sex act is complete, you and your partner have probably left some mementos of your lovemaking behind. Even with a condom, some semen is likely to swim free. If your partner's seminal fluid is trickling across your stomach or has spilled onto the sheets, how do you react? Do you say "yuck" and reach for the paper towels to clean it up?

Don't even think about it.

If you wore condoms and are not sure of your partner's HIV status, gently wipe up the semen with a towel or washcloth and be careful to avoid letting any of the fluid come into contact with any cuts you may have on your fingers. If you're both disease free, enjoy a monogamous relationship, and engage in unprotected sex, wipe up your partner's fluids by hand, then lick it off with your tongue. You probably craved his semen when you were in the heat of passion. You may have even swallowed it. It's true that semen "tastes" better when it's spurting directly into your mouth from your lover's penis. You're lost in erotic joy, and your other senses may overrule your taste buds. But a man's semen is an expression of desire. If you're disgusted by it or regard it as a nuisance after your equipment has gone soft, you're probably not in love.

Both of you will probably want to shower after sex, to rinse the perspiration off your bodies and cool off. Do you take turns using the tub?

If it's love, you'll likely want to share this moment just as you shared the sheets. Shower together. Continue the intimacy under the nozzle as warm water washes over your bodies. This could be erotic enough to inspire another bout of lovemaking. You may choose to do it again right there in the water.

Unless there's a fire, you should never hurry up and get dressed following sex. That's the way a man acts when he's with a prostitute and is feeling shame or is fearful of arrest.

Ideally, you should spend the night together. If it's love, you may be racing each other to the kitchen to be the one to make breakfast and serve it to your lover in bed. That's the way love is. Love is caring. Love is sharing. Love isn't sex, but the best sex is an expression of true love.

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Answer 2

Well if you want to be technically, as a general rule, i believe that sensual love is in fact mutual. ;)


I actually wondered the same thing when i first got into my current relationship. But its easy to tell with the right person.

I think that the drawing point to tell for a man, is to know that men really seek the physical act to feel loved. It gives them a feeling of closeness and emotional security, when you can tell that the love is mutual, is when after, they give you the emotional affection women need to feel secure, that a man doesnt.
If after love making hes done and rolls over, showers or leaves, than its not a mutual love. If he stays and holds you and provides you with emotional security, than you can explore a little further.

Answer 3

Pleasure driven by lust...people these days don't know the real meaning of love they just throw it away and get married tons of times and have about 60 boyfriends they don't know they are selling themselves short...

Answer 4

mutual love between the two or more involve all aspects of life
feeling caring helping etc etc
whereas sensual love restrict to all such things which involve indirectly or directly sex

Answer 5

emotions...

when you are emotional about the person... THAT is susual love...