i need help its kinda hard to explain but i will do my best basically me and my girlfriend someone i love and plan to spend the rest of our lifes together and get married but right now her parents are totally against that and controlling they wont let her talk to me or anything if tho we find any means nessecary to communicate we cant be together becuz if she lives here i can get arrested and so can my mom im 16 and shes 17 we live in oregon we just want to be together is there any legal way or right we have to be together we live in oregon if that changes it PLEASE help
2007-03-07 23:17:21 · 5 answers · asked by Brandon 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Brandon-I know this is a tough situtation and my advice is not what you'll want to hear. The bottom line is--you have no solution but to wait. If you really love each other, that love will survive. Part of maturing in our lives is learning to be patient; learning to wait for what we want until the time is right and learning to accept reality. You're at the acceptance crisis stage. You know what the sad truth is and you don't want to accept it. Communicating with her is a different issue. First of all, I think your parents are dead wrong to block the communication. It obviously isn't working so they're the ones who need a reality check. 2nd-how does communicating hurt anyone? It sounds like you have worked out some communication method, but don't forget old-fashioned letter writing. You can put your thoughts down in writing without hurrying through a phone call in fear of being caught. If you've figured out a way to call her, that's fine, but try to figure out a way of writing to her also.
2007-03-07 23:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by David M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is the "love of a lifetime" then it will still be there when you are 18. Sounds to me like her parents are looking out for her best interest at this point because she is too young to understand what a lifetime commitment is, and they probably have no desire to be grandparents at this point.
The only "legal" way to be together is with her parents consent, and as they have no intention of giving that from your description I suggest that you show them respect and go by their wishes. Show them that you are the type of guy they would want their daughter to spend time with, and try to win them over.
I stand on your girlfriend's parents side at the moment - you two are way too young to talk lifetime commitments and marriage at this point.
2007-03-08 00:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right the age of 18 is legal consent in that state, you will have to wait untill she is 18 and you turn 18 when she is 18 she can move out of her parents house and not any sooner sorry you have to wait untill she is 18 so don't go breaking any laws.
2007-03-07 23:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this sort of control oriented society i doubt much can be done other than running away into the forest or something. Just remember what society is doing to you and don't forget - someday do something back.
2007-03-07 23:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ⓐ iinux2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, easy. Wait until you are both 18. Until then you are juveniles and under your parent's rule. Turn 18, move out then do what you want.
2007-03-07 23:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by dude0795 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋