so me and my ex boyfriend broke up at the end of august in 2007, and he got sent to military school by his parents. and we talked once in november and haven't talked since. my friend told me the other night that he wanted me to call him, so i did. we talked about normal stuff. in november he told me that he hated military school, he misses his friends, and he's really depressed. he says they break you down and then try to build you back up to what they want you to be, but you're so depressed and don't care about anything that you just don't want to do anything. and i guess he is using drugs now. he told me he does speed, purple haze, and ecstacy. prolly cuz he's depressed. but i am really scared. its either 1) gonna get him in REALLY BIG trouble one day, or 2) its gonna kill him. and i don't want either to happen. but he's incredibly stubborn. i can't change his mind on anything. i miss him so much, i love him with everything i am.... what can i do to help him???
2007-03-07 23:14:03 · 8 answers · asked by scoot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oops, i meant to say august 2006 near the beginning ^^^ sorry
2007-03-07 23:14:40 · update #1
If his parents sent him to military school it must have been for his own good. I would talk to his parents and tell him you believe he is on drugs. Yes he will be pissed and angry at you but if he does not get help he will end up dead and once he gets help he will thank you for caring enough. My former best friend of over 20 years we are now 37 stop speaking and our friendship ended due to her boyfriends drug problems he wont admit he has a problem steals everything and refuses to get help and she tolerates it.
2007-03-07 23:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex is choosing to do drugs, there is not too much that you can do to change this decision.
It is extremely difficult to deal with a person who is fighting an addiction.
I don't know if you are close to his parents or not, but if you are; you need to get them involved in what is going on, they may be able to talk to someone at the military school in order for your ex to get some much needed help.
It is quite obvious that your ex had other (or similar) problems previously, people do not generally go to military school for good reasons other than trying to get their lives straightened out.
I am not telling you to turn your back on him, but he needs to have some knowledable adults working with him to solve this addiction problem, before he does end up in more trouble or even overdosing.
People who are suffering from depression can get help, and do not need to turn to illegal drugs in order to try and escape the depression. He is most likely depressed because he had begun to realize that he made some poor choices; and he is now is a situation he has no control over because of these choices.
I don't know how he is getting a hold of these types of drugs in a military school situation, generally rules and regulations are fairly strict; but is he really using these drugs, or he is saying this in order to attempt to get out of the situation he is in because of his stubbornness?
You also are going to have to look at the reasons why he is your ex? There are other issues involved there; which you do not mention. Please get his parents involved, and I will pray that things will improve for him.
2007-03-07 23:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on how i understand them. Like if I met them and that they have been doing those products, and persevered to realize this, i does not care considering is their decision. i do no longer do drugs, nor do I genuinely have an urge too, yet i do no longer decide those that do. Now in the event that they have been based on that drug and we we are close, identity be disenchanted and decide to help them. yet while it have been somebody I knew and did no longer do it, then all of sudden began doing drugs like that, identity be frightened and worried and decide to help them, yet on an analogous time it particularly is their decision that i would be unable to make for them. My boyfriend grew to become right into a druggie as quickly as all of us started relationship and he stop for me. we've been jointly 2 years and he's had a slip up once or twice, and that i grew to become into injury and disenchanted him because of the fact he does not might desire to try this, and he merits extra effectual than drugs, yet I helped him and he's complete particularly super. Extacy is risky btw. Its in basic terms as undesirable as heroin and crack.
2016-09-30 09:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's going to military school, they will probably do drug testing on him. I can almost guarantee you that they will be able to tell, especially if his grades go down or his attitude gets worst. If you speak to him again, tell him to layoff the stuff because it isn't the right way to handle the situation. He will just have to deal with his environment the best way he can. Just be his friend, and tell him to stop the drug use before he gets into huge trouble. That's all you CAN do.
2007-03-07 23:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually is kinda hard for him to stop when the person is addicted to it, but then again it could be stop by slowing down the usage little by little. Help him out his problems , spend more time with him so he could forget about the drugs....
2007-03-07 23:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's a tough one...it isn't that simple to stop using drugs.I believe that you should talk to his parents about that and i'm sure they will understand.What is more,it is better to get in trouble than die...right??
2007-03-07 23:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how upset its making you, and maybe tell him you love him to much to see him like this, he might come around and stop the drugs. if he's so unhappy where he is he should come back home.
2007-03-07 23:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by demonized 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try to talk to his parents if he loves you act angry maybe it will help but i dont recomend it might create more probs than it solves
2007-03-08 00:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋