What’s the best discipline for a 14 year old that is verbally disrespectful?

Answer 1

The best discipline (meaning 'to teach') for a verbally disrespectful 14 year old is 1)making sure you always model verbally respectful behavior (you have to show how to talk nice even when you're upset.) and 2)stating your feelings and expectations: "When you speak to me like this, I am disappointed in you. I will only speak back to you when you speak properly to me."

The other day, I knocked on my 14 yo son's door while he was taking a bath. He said, "Did you bring me my new clothes?" I said - try that again. He said, "I need my clothes."

I said - so far, you are speaking as if to a servant. I only have a few moments, so try again. So he said, "Mom, would you please bring me my clothes."

Better.

So, I kept my calm, modeling respectful speech, and I was clear about my expectations.

Also, keep in mind that this is partly a developmental issue, ie it's normal, but still needs correcting.

Answer 2

I am now 23, but I remember when I was 14 what a brat I was to my poor mother! I used to think she was the worst since she would take everything away, the phone, the radio, the TV & computer. She told me that if I could not learn to respect her then I would not have the oppertunity to show my good side of respect to just my friends. That it starts at home. My mother was very persistant and of course I was very stubborn but because she went to great lengths to prove her point, I learned my lesson back in the day very quickly. But what most of us parents tend to forget is that there is a time and a place for civil conversation, I remember also being very hurt that my mother would not take the time to talk to me (without being judgmental) about friends, boys & school troubles....because as we all know now those things are minute and we don't care about High School anymore... but when you are a teenager those years are tough and we need our parents to be more understanding. Good Luck to you I am sure you will find your way in reaching a census with your teenager.

Answer 3

that is really hard and I think you really have to try to find out what hits home to them. What would really make them think twice.
I also would be really consistant about what your punishment ends up being and stick to it and follow through.
MAke it something that she has to constantly do? Loose 1 dollar of allowance each time she does it?
I have my daughter do an extra chore when she does something I've asked her not to that is small like pick up her dog's poop!
For big things we ground her from stuff.
You can also maybe tell her no activites froms chool like a dance but don't let her choose which one.

Answer 4

My dad would ground me from the phone,tv, everything .
Also, you could get a tape recorder and record what s/he says and replay it back so s/he hears how ridicolous s/he sounds.
That defiently worked on me...I was a little hellion.
WAS being the key word.

Answer 5

i am having the same problem with my 16 y/o

lets just killem all (just kiding ) and he thinks its funny that i ground him he finds a way to get on his pc even though i took his power cord he takes off after school and i am at my wits end

Answer 6

ah! teenager years..... and they call the 2 years old the terrible two.!!!!!!!!!!At this age they always think they know everything and the parents are boring,take privileges away can help but you have to stick to it and also have a calm talk when he or she is relaxing.listen to them without interruption.

Answer 7

pay a tough looking 14 year old to kick his a ss.

Answer 8

You could always try the old washing their mouth out with soap thing...trust me, it doesn't taste all that wonderful. And if you're consistant with it, the kid should get the message and cut it out, or they know what'll happen.

Answer 9

Respect is a learned behavior and it sounds like this kid has none......
Anyway, remove everything from his/her room - except a mattress and then take away ALL privilieges until he/she gets their act together again.!

Answer 10

A slap across the face usually does it. It's a real eye opener!