Help! i think i may be pregnant?

Question

I'm only 17 even though my boy friend is 22 and financially capable of looking after a child. I'm currently doing A-levels and looking forward to going to UNI. Has anyone ever been in this situation, what did u do and how did it turn out?

When i get the result i'll let you all know

This is to 'evilbunnyhahaha'. I am a very smart, driven and goal oriented person even though i'm so young but i will obviously need financial support. Don't judge the situation until you understand. There is no way i would live off benefits. I WILL get my degree and i WILL be successful, so don't look down on me love, look up!

Answer 1

Personal experience tells me that you are probably scared, but first off, don't stress too much. It is going to happen whether you do or not! Please don't rely on your boyfriend solely! You have nine months to do any type of schooling that you would need for your future with your baby :) And everybody who said that it can't work out with your boyfriend is wrong! I was 16 when I got pregnant with my first child and his father was 22, and guess what...I am almost 19 and he and I are still together and having our second child together. So keep your head up and don't let anybodies negativity bring you down! You are a smart girl, I am sure, and you can do it with or without him :) Best of Luck!

Answer 2

well...1st off i'd have used protection if i didn't want a baby. but tough sh1t, you're pregnant...or might be, go n do a ruddy test 4 gods sake! its unfair on ur bf that ur looking to him 4 financial support, u have hands and a brain (apparently) so cnt u support urself? u can get benefits, u can still go uni, just have to put it off a year maybe, hardly the end of the world.

i'm sorry but i hate teenagers moaning they're pregnant but they wana stay at school cuz they're so smart etc etc, well if u were so smart u wuldn't have got pregnant, and u wuldn't be looking at the world from a 1920's POV.
u never heard of doing degrees from home? my dad's done it 8 times! plus then u dnt have to do AS or A levels cuz thru the open uni u dnt need them. either way u culd still drop out now, get a temp job, n then go back to college. most colleges after a day care center for mums wanting to learn.

not my choice, but don't have an abortion just cuz u wana stay at school. there's so many places out there to help young mothers get the education they want, so use 'em! being pregnant is the most wonderful experience you will ever have, the scans, finding out what your having, feeling your baby kick for the first time...magical.

oh, and most men a twats btw..incase u ahdn't noticed. my baby's fathers also 22, and i'm 7 months pregnant n he's left me cuz he cnt go out drinking all the time like he wants to. typical huh? at 22 they;ve just found the 'pleasures' of the over 21 bars...sad thing is they're no different to 18s!!

good luck n i hope it all works out. sorry for my snottyness, in a bad mood today

Answer 3

Girl, from the heart and having been in a similar situation- you must assess your situation with all honesty. You probably know what is best for you but sometimes that can be the hardest decision to make.

People have kids young and it works out for them and sometimes people have kids young and they end up messing up their lives and their babies lives.

All I can say is that whatever you choose to do you should make a plan. If you are pregnant and want to keep the baby then you probably have around 8-9 months. You said that your bf is financially stable- but what about you- what if things don't work out between you two. If I were you I would train up in something so that if things don't work out you are not on income support for the rest of your life. Use your time wisely to train in computing/ hair and beauty/I.T, just something so that if anything goes wrong with your boyfriend you can still have a career and support you and your baby.

If you decide not to keep the baby then that is what is right for you.

Good luck

Answer 4

yes i am 20 and in uni with a three year old son. my advice would be to take a year out. doing uni and having a newborn is too much but when ur child gets to be one although it will be extremely hard u can manage uni better. first of all look into the uni u want to go to and b4 the year is out look at what childcare is available for students and if there is any apecial accomadation or grants u can get to fund ur education. do not rely on the support of the childs father it is up top u and to u only, although get any help that is offered frtom him. good luck u will do well. do not give up on uni because i am in my 3rd year and will have my degree in a few months and go into uni woth ther frame of mind that it is one of the hardest things in the world to be a student and mother. so best of luck u have a few tough years ahead of you. take a course on how to budget ur money because come uni u will have none. i remember worrying how to pay for food and clothes the basics. another bit of advice would be to start a fund for ur child now maybe saving even a tenner a week so if u get stuch u can dip into it to but him/her shoes etc if he/ she needs them.

Answer 5

I had my first child at 22( which obviously is slightly different to 17) and although I love him and my other 2 kids very much I feel I missed out on a lot.

But that said, life has a habit of working out in the end whatever you do.

Answer 6

like you said you are are strong and driven, yes 17 is young to have a baby but it does happen and people cope.

you sound like you can cope and if your boyfriend will be there to support you whilst you go to university, you can make it up to him when you have your degree and are working.

it is possible now a days to delay university and do it at a later stage.

just look into the possibilities and you come to the right conclusion.

just to say i do not believe in abortions but everyone is different. if it was me i would find a way to cope.

a baby is the best gift in the world.

congratulationsxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 7

You need to speak to your doctor straight away, and find out whether you're really pregnant, and if you are, what your options may be.

If you'd prefer not to talk to your doctor, contact a registered sexual health clinic. Marie Stopes are particularly good and will give you impartial advice (neither pro- nor anti-abortion). If you're in the UK, you can look clinics up on NHS direct.

Don't just choose one out of the phone book: a lot of them aren't registered and are basically a front for religious organisations. I don't know what your personal beliefs are, but you'll get the best advice from a registered clinic and they will respect your beliefs.

I've put links below.

Answer 8

Do you love your boyfriend?Do you see a future together?
How does he feel about the baby?
It may be a struggle.....however with a positive outlook...everything could work out. I am not saying it won't be hard, nothing that is ever worth anything is ever easy.

My mother had three children by the time she was 20,(not saying this is for everyone) However she is still in love and very successful.

How do your parents feel? Are they willing to work with you?

Best wishes.

Answer 9

i know exacty what your going through, im 17 too and i found out im pregnant about a month ago, my boyfriend is also 22 and we live together, the best thing you can do is do a test, and if its positive it'll be a huge shock but it doesnt take long until you get used to the idea of having a baby, jus make sure you talk to your boyfriend and your doctor and see what you want to do next. good luck. (",)

Answer 10

hi im 16 im about to be 17 i have a 4 month old baby my boyfriend is 22 to we had our baby and everything is fine just keep going to school get some type of home studies im going to graduate this year trust me its not that hard you could do it oh just remember no more parties oh yeah just don't let your babys father sign any birth papers yet untill married cuz he could go to jail well it dependes where you live good luck