one relative of mine is having crush on me.....and as much as i know..he is not of a good character person.he posses about my living...means what should i do..shouldnt do.......i dont like him...he is not even good in behaviour while talking to me.......he is unnecessarily calling me and torturing me...........he even calls one of my cousin's and irritates her by asking her what is my opnion about him...my parents dont like him coming home and neither i like it.i regret of talking to him in a party.because of this i am getting disturbed and tortured.i try to avoid him a lot.but he is unnecessarily trying to enter in my life.......his intentions are also very bad...i tried my all abilities to abuse him but he is still in the process of torturing........help me..give some solution so that i can show his real face infront of this world....(he admits that he has one girlfriend).
2007-03-07 22:38:38 · 28 answers · asked by Daffny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First try to handle him patiently. Try to make him learn that u r not interested in him softly.
But if he still doesn't understands what u want to say just show him ur true colours.
Don't behave timidly coz pple press the timid ones more. Just be bold and go to him and tell him courageously that u don wnt to move ahead in this relationship.
Have u informed ur parents about it? If not than first try to solve the matter by ur own as I have adviced u then if the problem remains the same then consult ur parents about that. They will definitely support u and will help u get rid of that brat in any way.
Just go ahead and be bold. Always rememeber GOD in ur heart and never forget HIM. Just HIM for help HE'll definitely be there to solve ur problem. Have faith in GOD and just be bold! OK!
GOD bless!
2007-03-07 22:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask people in your own country and culture. The differences are too great.
But here are some common elements:
1. Tell him very clearly that you want him to stop.
2. Ask as many family members and mutual acquaintances for advice as you can. That's a diplomatic way of telling them what's going on. Some of them may even help.
3. If he makes any actual threats, take very detailed notes, and immediately tell other people, because they could be important witnesses that you didn't make these stories up after the time they actually occurred.
2007-03-08 09:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always suggest that the location should be mentioned too
you seems to be from a conservative back groung society where man is always dominant and assertive and right
so most of the advises u will receive would not handle your problem
you will first of all have to get out of his dependance till them handle him diplomatically after which wage an open war
though i still doubt it would have any negative effect oon him as society believes him some may show symphaty to you but for replacing him you may do that may be can find a less demanding man
2007-03-08 06:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could get a restraining order on the guy
that sounds like the best solution
he really needs to grow up and butt out
and its worse because he has a girlfriend
if u have told him enough and he still wont listen report it to the police
dont abuse or harass him u will just give him a reason too continue
2007-03-08 06:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by zeo 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents to talk to his parents and have him stay away from you. Your life can't be entered unless you let him. Ignore him and walk away from him when ever you see him. Don't respond to him in any way don't talk to him just pretend he doesn't exist. If ever he touches you kick him real hard in the groan area he'll get the message. Don't be a victim.
2007-03-08 13:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Cyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take out a legal writ against him. Call the cops and have him arrested for stalking - Put an advertisment in the local newspaper with his name written in capital letters - telling everyone what an a*** hole he is.
2007-03-08 06:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by celianne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear adii,
My advice is that, you should bring it to your parent's attention. And should boldly tell him that you are not interested in him. Don't provoke him in anymanner, that might bring more trouble than good. This will probably work. But do let your parents know of this ok? Take care girl, god bless you and keep you safe
2007-03-08 06:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by Denil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be having more work to do.
So don't concentrate in such things. Your mind would definitely like to concentrate on things that what you like rather than what disturbs you.
So ignore him and his voice. Don't try to understand what he is trying to tell. And it is better not to involve in his business. Because there should be difference between you and him....
So, concentrate on your work..
2007-03-08 06:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by saba27win 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a stalker.
Avoid him and don't try to get involved with schemes to "expose his character". It only keeps you involved with him, which is what he wants.
Get your family and friends to help avoid him, by not speaking to him under any conditions. Hopefully he will then get bored.
2007-03-08 06:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u, i would probably kill him. makes a drama to scared him off. if that's not working, well, u should get ur parents to help u and if that not working also, call the police to arrest this guy. he deserve it. i hope u ok and wish u the best to handle that.
2007-03-08 06:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋