I had posted this question a while back but i had posted it in the wrong category(sorry). I would love a truthful and positive response to my problem....ok,here goes; Ihave fallen in love with a 47 year old woman,she has expressed interest in me but feels that being in a relationship with me would be a little weird and people would look down on us. I am 22 and I feel that we could be together despite the age difference but another part of me says to just see her as a friend and move on.There's just one problem...I cant.
2007-03-07 22:33:16 · 18 answers · asked by bungholeitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear friend. I will be totally sincere with you because you ask for a truthfull answer. Having a relationship with a lot older woman will not be easy at all for both of you. We talk about a difference of 25 years. She could be your mother ! In my opinion, the problem is not what other people will say but how will this effect you in the relationship. And trust me, is not easy at all. In the beggining you won't pay attention but when family and friends of both sides begin to try changing your opinion and brake you up, your soul will hurt all time. Love is the most wonderful feeling in the world but is never enough to keep two people together. Beside common interests you need support of your closest people otherwise fights will start really soon. All these i tell you is from a personal experience. I have been through all these bacause a relationship i had last year with five years younger man and look, i was only 29 and he was 25. Not such a difference and his family start a war. Believe me you don't want this. I broke up after a year and a half, i was so hurt but life goes on. If you want her in your life , stay friend with her otherwise you risk to lose her for ever. Take care.
2007-03-07 23:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's quite an age-span, even if you were the woman and she was the man. Other people shouldn't judge, but it's very difficult to see that as a realistic long-term relationship. What if you wanted kids at some point (and don't say you NEVER will...I know dozens of people who said never, including myself, and they all either have kids or are trying to have them). She may like the idea of being a grandmother at some point, but it's doubtful that she wants to do the mother thing all over again, or at all if she has none .I don't know if she has any kids...if she does, they will be close to your age or older, probably...that would be a strange feeling for them and for her...not that it can't be overcome, but relationships already have SO many hurdles and obstacles...adding extra ones just make it more likely for potential failure. Also, if she hasn't yet, she will be hitting menopause soon. Weight changes, sex-drive changes, and a myriad of other things happen during that time. My girlfriend was gorgeous and hit 49 and menopause and her boyfriend, who was only 4 years younger than her, dumped her because he found her unappealing (shallow, I know, but it does happen). I DO empathize with the feeling that you can't change whom you fall in love with and your heart leads the way, but there are so many issues that will possibly make the relationship unfun...someone's bound to want to throw in the towel. I think (I am 41) she is probably thinking of a lot of those things, and is uncomfortable with not just the age-span, but also all the complications that can and probably will arise. Too risky, is what she may be thinking. Try, as best you can, to find someone closer to your own age. And good luck to you.
2007-03-08 06:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going out with a guy who's 12 years younger than me and I can't be more happy. It's a great relationship and it works for both of us. He's in his 20's and I'm late 30's.
If you really like this woman, why not give it a try. You have nothing to lose and a lot to gain.
2007-03-08 06:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by marykin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is something abstract. No one can deny that love comes by itself. So what if she's 47 and u r 22.? As long as u both love each other, who cares what others might think. This is your life not theirs. u r 22 now. U can makes decisions on your own. Follow your heart...
2007-03-08 07:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by coleslaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that that the age difference is very important in any serious relationship.If ur ready to face the society and ur love is strong for her,then go ahead and marry,otherwise just remain as friends
2007-03-08 06:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Preethi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T plan a permanent relationship with her; menopause is a real kick in the teeth.
Short/intermediate-term, however -- I'm all for it. It will be a wonderful relationship to have had.
Now, SHE may want to hook on with somebody permanent while she feels she still can. You have to honor that if she does.
2007-03-08 09:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age makes no difference. If you both like each other give it a go
2007-03-08 06:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by pinkkitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May i know is this the 1st time someone express interested to you?
Baby.. It won't work... I'm not trying to let you down but telling you the true... It won't last also baby...The gap is too big
Trust me...
Just see her as friend.
2007-03-08 06:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by peggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to her about it. it has to be what you both want. you cant help falling in love with someone so ask her what she wants and then make a decision. if she doesnt want a relationship then you will know that you need to move on. :) good luck xx
2007-03-08 06:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by demonized 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All "things" considered, follow the beating of your heart. There is an old saying, "Age does not matter."
2007-03-08 06:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋