i've been with my bf for 2.5 years now. we don't live together and i have 3 children from a previous marriage that i have part-time (and he adores).
since before christmas he's been acting weird and saying things or asking funny questions that relating to getting engaged. it first started out with him asking me "where is a good place to buy jewelry, like a ring?" that was back in Oct 06. he keeps telling me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and his nieces already call me aunt. my birthday was this past month and he got me a 1500 $ necklace but keeps referring to it as a ring ("when i got your ring", "the place where i bought your ring.") and just this past week, we were talking about me not being able to attend his sister's wedding in June b/c i'm afraid she won't want me there-his reply was "well then i have 3 months to propose." then said "I shouldn't have said that" when i looked at him funny. i'm confused! what should i think?!!
2007-03-07 22:29:32 · 13 answers · asked by prncessang228 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have talked about living together and being married. he calls my kids his own and always tells them he loves them.
i just don't know why he keeps teasing me about getting engaged if he doesn't intend to do so.
2007-03-07 22:30:28 · update #1
i did forget to add that yes i do love him very much. we talk every day (sometimes more than once) and i feel like i can tell him anything. i'm the first person he calls when he gets upset or needs to talk.
he has said before that he does want us to be married. and when his mom was out for a visit in nov he was pulling rings up on the internet with her there.
2007-03-07 22:36:33 · update #2
Maybe he is waiting for a romantic holiday or some other
special occasion. He wants it to be a surprise but is having difficulty in keeping a secret.
2007-03-07 22:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is semi serious about it , chances are the problems whic caused the split before will still be there , you need to tell him what you feel , or it will come to a point where you will be put on the spot , and I just hope that your decision is grounded before that is happen ie , you have the answer now in case of a "what if" , if he gives you jewellery he must understand that this shouldnt be used as a weight to tip your scales his weigh , his decisions and whatever he does is his own agenda , you merely make the ultimate decision if it comes to it.,
think now what you want , and if you dont consider it now , be true to the ex in your decision , and if he still trys hard , then there is nothing you can do , but wait until he gets tired of no response from you.
be careful , if the situation now is working with the kids be wary , because you cannot risk the situation reverting to how it was without being sure there is a reasonable chance the relationship will work.. good luck with it
2007-03-07 22:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by DSV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he wants to get married. He is probably having a hard time just coming out and asking you to marry him. He beats around the bush just coming to the edge of asking. Think about it, and next time he does this in your own words maybe say " well, now is as good a time as any to ask if that is what you want ". That will nudge him over the hesitation. Deep down he probably is afraid that you might reject him and that would be horrifying for him to face. You know men well enough to know that we have those tender egos. Good Luck and may you have a good life togather.
2007-03-07 22:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, why don't you just ask him outright? You never mentioned that you loved the man. If you want to know (maybe he's hinting so you will ask) then just ASK ! He is a MAN...and he might just need a push. You're only confused because you're not communicating. Sit down and look him in the eye and ask "are you trying to ask me to marry you"? ..."and, a necklace is not a 'ring' by the way"...clear that up for the guy. Godloveya.
2007-03-07 22:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's playing some dumb word games trying to feel you out, tell him to be man and come out with whatever he is trying to say.
2007-03-07 22:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what is this ring all about. Let him tell you so that you don't have go keep guessing.
2007-03-07 22:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your hurry? If he wants to marry you then he'll ask you when he's ready. If he doesn't, he wont. And you know him - no one here does. Is he teasing you? Only you can answer that.
2007-03-07 22:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to keep u always under pressure
seek out for independent living
2007-03-07 22:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wont to marry but not really sure as to when to ask
2007-03-07 23:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by mountainchowpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him where your relationship is going and see what he says
2007-03-07 22:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋