i was dating this boy for eight months and everything was going great until saturday night when we finished. what happened was that he found it funny saying he was using me and i totally flipped and smaked him one, he then grabbed my throught and threw me on the floor and said he was only joking about the whole using thing after I hit him. We are now finished and he is 22 and im 17. i think that this sick joke was not funny and if he loved me that much he wouldnt dump me there and then. I love him so much i don't know what i am going to do. was i wrong in acting the way i did? wold any other boy grab their girlfriends throat? help me
2007-03-07 22:12:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think physical abuse of any kind does not have any place in a relationship. You were not right in hitting him, and he was totally out of way grabbing your throat.
You guys are best off each other. For your own good.
2007-03-07 22:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by raucous raphael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend, more over than the sick joke, which was in very poor taste, I am more concerned that he grabbed you and threw you on the floor! I trully believe that was going to surface eventually and only get worse...so, sounds cruel, but this may have been a blessing to you in disguise if you consider what a life being abused is like? I know having someone whom your heart strings are attached to walk away is wrenching...but one day at a time with that. Sometimes it helps...(i've been there a few times) to say a quiet prayer and ask the Lord for some peace in this area and some wisdom wouldn't hurt either. I wish you the best of everything.
2007-03-07 22:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by diane b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id forget about him love find some one that loves an cares for you, even if he was saying this as a joke ( although not a very nice one ) he has said it and that is always going to stick with you words like that can't be taken back infact nxt time hes with his friends comment on how little he has in the trouser department and laugh and walk off tell him you going to find some1 that can actually satisfy you
2007-03-07 22:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by loubylou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey princess, think you got a wrong one there, didnt you realise he was using you, what a hurtful statement to make to someone you are suposed to be in love with, only you will know the true answer if you was being used. Move on babe he is not worth it, and you deserve better. Good luck.
2007-03-07 22:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by newciderman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are best to have gotten away from him now . Yes you did smack him first but he should have just restrained your hands from doing it again, while he explained his sick, hurtful "joke" (as he tries to weasel his way out of it.) Violence is something that progresses.......... after the first time ................it becomes easier to put his hands on you (negatively.) You are so young that I wouldn't worry about getting all " boo hoo" over this guy. Just chalk it up as experience , a lesson learned and move on with your life.
2007-03-07 22:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by josified 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your actions where wrong no dout about that but it is a har thing to ecept that you have been used you are still young and i feel sure that you will find a bloke that will love you as you do he i know i did i was beaten i even had a pick axe put though my head my partner now is a good man they do exist i promise good luck and let the looser go your better than that
2007-03-07 22:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by bunsofhell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! you weren't.
It is normal to do this.
It wasn't a joke.
And if it was then it was a really bad one.
But in the end you just slapped him.
He graped you from the thought and threw you down.
He was very violent 2 you.
You don't need this.
Stay away from him.
You don't need this kind of love.
2007-03-07 22:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is no gentleman ... even if he wanted to finish your relationship, it is not nice to say that he had used you ... I agree it is not funny !
You should have handled it also more lady-like, if I may say so ...
His "answer" to your smacking ... again no excuse for that.
Bottom line, it is not important any more who is right or wrong ... you 2 are not right for each other ...
You are both young, immature (sorry) ... maybe in 10 years ...
2007-03-07 22:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are both in the wrong. His joke was a silly thing to say & he shouldn't have grabbed your throat BUT you shouldn't of hit him.
Violence is still wrong when it's the girl dishing it out.
You both need to learn anger management.
2007-03-07 22:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by LauraMarie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He must have known that to make a statement like that is silly. He deserves his just deserts. However, you were too violent. You could have control yourself and speak with him on what it means that he's using you instead of turning to physical. Learn to relax. Apologise and work on the relationship.
2007-03-07 22:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋