baby nights?

Question

hi my baby is 9 weeks old and she has been a brilliant baby. she only ever woke up once a night and slept really well. up until now her last feed was at 11.30ish when i wud put her to sleep and go to bed myself and she would wake up next at 8 am for a feed. everybody then at 8 weeks said we need to get her into a routine because we have bottle fed always and she needs a earlier bed time. so now she is on 5 feeds a day her last one at 8pm and put her to bed between half past and 9 depending how long her last feed takes and for the past week since doin this she wakes up at 5am wanting attention or general maning. she doesnt cry for food just messes about and my husband says she should go into her own room now maybe to help her settle and so we dont get disturbed at 5amm?
any advice on this? or any help with routines? or what ages they work best at and what time is best to be on their own? she is in moses basket next to me.
Our friends baby was sleeping 7-7 from 8 weeks old onwards.

Answer 1

No expert on this yet but it seems as though she was already on a routine!! And now that you ve took her out of her routine shes all out of whack. Every baby is different so you cant go by your friends baby!!

Answer 2

Oh this is a hard one basically because there are no hard and fast rules to what is the right thing to do here. It sounds to me like she was already in a good rountine for her age and the fact that she was feeding at 11.30 then sleeping through is great. Do not go by what other people tell you your baby should be doing. You and your husband need to do what is best for you both and your baby. I would suggest putting her back to the 11.30 feed then gradually over time bring her last feed forward maybe by half hour stints. And putting her into her own room would be fine, just make sure you have a baby monitor and don't lift her if she is playing around just check on her and leave. Hope some of this helps.

Answer 3

some babys don't take well to change if the old routine woked for all of you should have stayed with it everybaby is different first you should try putting her into a regular crib now see if that helps but if you figure from about 8:30 untill about 5:30 thats about 9-10 hours thats a good sleep maybe you should try a 9:30 bedtime give her a warm bath first that will help her relax then maybe she'll wake up about 6:30 ish that should be a good wake up time for all.

Answer 4

It has to be a gradual change by fifteen minutes every day or the baby gets all confused. I do believe there is a right way and a wrong way. if you met a baby who gets quality sleep vs. a baby who fights it you will see that the sleep thing transfers over into behavioral. get this book and all your question will be answered it is wonderful.
Good Night, Sleep Tight: The Sleep Lady's Gentle Guide to Helping Your Child Go to Sleep , Stay Asleep, And Wake Up Happy by Kim West and Joanne Kenen
Highly recommend this!!!

Answer 5

Babies are too young to understand schedules, in fact it is you training *yourself* to a schedule. You should go back to the schedule that was working better before. You'll never stop your baby waking when it is ready to wake up. If you let it cry it'll just be a miserable baby.

It has never been shown that babies are better left on their own. Most societies don't put babies in a separate room. But by around 3 months their nervous system is usually developed enough to sleep through enough hours that you can put them in their own room.... with a baby monitor to hear them if they wake.

Answer 6

Every baby is different than each other and that is the mistake we moms make, by comparing the babies, but babies grow differently , let's not forget babies are individuals, let her decide as what is best for her , in terms of food, sleep,or anything else, until she is doing well and is showing no signs of stress and any abnormal activity, let her be the way she is, is it so soon for her to adapt things as per parents wish

Answer 7

well if we were all so lucky!!!
do what you feel is right,don't listen to other peoples rubbish.
if that was working for you why change??
i find it very hard to believe your friends baby was sleeping like that at 8 weeks!!!-did she drug it or something?
people like that try to make you feel insecure,do what you feel is right.
don't put her into her own room until you are ready to do so.
both my boys stayed in a bassinet next to my bed until 4 months of age.

Answer 8

selfish... if your only concern is the baby disturbin you at 5 am.. what are you gunna do when shes sick all night and u have to be with her all the time........ your best course of action, give her the bottle put her to bed... before you go to bed, give her another bottle, even if shes sleeping.... she will drink it just be careful... then she should sleep through the night with no problems.... its great your babys sleeping so long but thats the easiest solution!!