My friend is married with a little boy and is pregnant.Her ex boyfriend who was her first love who I remember at the time she was soooo in love with contacted her on friends reunited and she text his number that he left in an email just to say hi back.7years has passed and my friend is happy and settled but her ex is really trying hard to win her back.Theres nothing he wont do.I feel really worried for her coz I know she has always cared alot 4 him.But he hurt her back then so badly.Why is he doing this again to her,when he can see how happy she is with her husband and family.She has told him when I was with her that they cant keep in touch but the smooth talker just worms his way back again!!!Says he always loved her and regrets letting her go.WELL ITS TOO LATE NOW!!! Do you think I should talk to him without my friend knowing and tell him he blew his chance and to stop playing on her kind and loving personality?
2007-03-07 21:15:35 · 16 answers · asked by Lorraine D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because now he realised that he lost her.
It's his ego and nothing else.
He is doing the best he can to separate her. If he does this then he will let her again.
It's totally egoistic.
But!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's her fault tooo.
If she doesn't want him then she had to stop the communication.
Tell everything to her husband, and try to find a solution together.
If he doesn't stop, then she needs to go to the police, for harassment.
But i think that in a way she likes that her old love is doing that.....
2007-03-07 21:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is doing it only to stalk her and cause problems for her. He almost sounds like someone that hates the fact that she has moved on and found the happiness that he is so desperately looking for.
The thoughts of your first love have a way of popping up again and again over the years. Just remind her that it's not the first love relationship that she's in now and ask her if she is willing to jeopardize what she has today. If he continues to contact her after she's told him no then she might need the help of her husband to get the ex's attention.
My daughter went through the same thing till he husband talked to her ex. Now they don't hear from him anymore.
2007-03-07 21:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by in_the_dark_friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be best to talk to her as she is the one with the power to prevent the hurt that lies ahead. She has found a husband who loves her, has children, the greatest jewel of all time - that is happiness and to dwell on a man who left her years back when she has love is walking into destruction with eyes wide open. Let her think of all the people who will be hurt with this.
2007-03-07 21:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by Olga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree fully with you. If he really loved her he wouldn't have let her go in the first place. Sounds like he just wants it all. You personally ought to be careful. I can see your good intentions.. but if your friend ever found out.. she might see it as "interference" even though it was from good intentions.
Also I doubt the guy would listen to you.... if he can't see his ex gf is married with young kids, and in first years of being in a fully family life... and yet he still wants to get back with her on the side... then he really doesn't care much about anything but himself imo.
2007-03-07 21:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Narky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I really think you need to tell your girl friend she needs to wise up and see what she has now ..and remind her that this guy hurt her before and remind her that he is playing with her kind and loving personality ...listen I know you care very much for your girl friend maybe you need to have a good talk with her take care
2007-03-07 21:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ex is selfish , he had his chance , and for whatever reason failed , he needs to move on , and your freind needs your reasurance as a freind that she shouldnt even think of doing anything with the current , to dwell on the failed past.
it is too late now for the ex , he is basically coming back in to offer temptation for your freind , and this is lethal , and is against all code of ethics of people in relationships , if you get a chance , talk to the ex , tell him what you think , and that there are people who will support you in counselling your freind with the right decison. he has no right , and is basically becoming a problem in a happy situation, and this is downright wrong , and unfair to your freind!
2007-03-07 21:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by DSV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could tell him that but i think it will only cause probs between you and your frnd....the only way is goin to b foe her to tell him her self and keep to it....if she don't do this soon she is going to end up heart broken from both him and her current hubby.....becuz he will find out that she is talking to him...if he don't know already...i wish you and your frnd the best of luck
2007-03-07 21:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by chad s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all up to her. She's the one who still talks to him. Makes me think that she's quite flattered by this. Doesn't she know the word no?
2007-03-07 21:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is coming up empty in life, and is turning to something that worked for him in the past. BET ON IT.
2007-03-07 21:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by BirkleyIII 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no keep out of that dont talk to him or her let her do her thing.
if she continues to be a good friend to you then you only worry about that. she has to be tired of that mess not you.
2007-03-08 02:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by cheyanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋