Why is it when somebody says to you " Now dont get offened now" that we always do?? As soon as its come out their mouths. I dont know if I can speak for everyone, but I most certainly do.
2007-03-07 20:05:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no, dont be offended (although its a natural instinct), they just tryin to tell you how it is, without the intent of any malice. just gettin you to think about the topic and make you realise that this is how you go about it, and to think of a different way you could handle it. dont know if ive explained my answer very well, but i know wat im tryin to say and hope you do too.
2007-03-07 20:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do understand. I have always found that the people who begin a statement with those words tend to say something offensive and usually pointless (ie they didn't need to say it in the first place). If someone just comes out and tells me their problem with me, it's fine and we deal with it. These are usually the people that wouldn't say "I don't mean to offend you, but...".
I don't know why it is, but I agree with you.
2007-03-07 20:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by HerbGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 08:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by shoaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say it because they do not want to intentionally hurt your feelings,however there is something they wish to discuss with you (of a delicate nature) maybe they think they are bringing something to your attention that they feel needs to be addressed.
Try to look at the point and not get all emotional
2007-03-07 20:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because they know it will offend you, so they are asking you to pardon their statement. If you get offended mostly by verbal sayings you honestly need to get over that feeling, quick!
2007-03-07 20:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by cashew 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reason ppl say that b4 they blurt sumthing out is becuz they are affraid of what type of reaction the person is goin to have to it...me on the other hand..i just come out n tell you my opinion i would rather hurt you with the truth then to lie to you
2007-03-07 20:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just another way trying to make things seem less offending when it is the total opposite and stop saying it
2007-03-07 20:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the response is that if the comment was inconsiderate or uncalled for -that their opinions don't matter as you don't respect their views. i find they are the ones offended even though they initiated the disrespect.
2007-03-07 20:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont get offended but anything other peoples oppinions dont matter to me
the only oppinions that matter to me are my kids and they can tell me anything
2007-03-07 20:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree. we do. coz people know they shouldn't say that.
2007-03-07 20:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋