im expecting baby #4 my 1st son was stillborn and would be 9 this year, my other son is 6 and my little girl will be 2 in april this baby is due in september. im a little worried how much my life is going to change i have a fantasic husband but he works my son will be at school so it will be me on my own with a newborn and a 2 year old. any ideas about getting into a routine and how to make my little girl still feel loved and not left out or put on hold. i know ive a while to go yet but i like to know in advance so i can plan. thanks.
2007-03-07 19:53:06 · 9 answers · asked by Cheryl A 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My children are now 8, 6 and nearly 4, but this reminds me of when they were very small and aged 0, 2 and 4!
It was a very difficult time, sometimes I was extremely stressed trying to manage on my own all day, my husband works long hours, and we have no family nearby, but looking back, I would advise you to relax and enjoy it.
Try to get out daily for a walk or visit somewhere, e.g a park, playcentre or museum or shopping centre, etc, accept that your home will not be spotless, find ways of making quick, not complicated meals, give each child special time every day and lots of cuddles (even the older one!) and know that time goes very fast and before you know it they will all be at school, then you will have time to wash your hair, read a book or even just go to the toilet - and you'll miss them!
It is not possible to completely stop your daughter from being jealous, after all she is still very young. Imagine if your husband went and brought home a second wife who was younger and cuter than you and she got all his attention- and loads of presents! It is almost like this for your daughter and she will feel resentful at times.
However little girls tend to like babies, so you can get her involved, for example choosing the babies clothes every day, what hat he/she will wear, having a go at pushing the pram round the garden, etc. Give her lots of kisses and cuddles, tell her how special she will always be to youand make sure there are some presents for her and your older child, as the presents for the baby will soon pile up!
Also, your health is important in the next few years, stay in bed as long as possible after baby is born, eat really well, get all the help you can in the first few months, and hopefully you will be stronger and better recovered to deal with the challanges and joys ahead!
2007-03-07 22:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had baby number 3 it was wonderful. My oldest was 3 and the next was 20 months. If you get the older ones involved even if it's just passing you the wipes at nappy changing they will be so happy. Once you get past 2, it doesn't matter how many you have (I now have 5). If you are making dinner for 2 you might as well be doing it for loads. Bath time - when baby gets a bit bigger - stick them all in the tub at the same time. Get the 6 year old to read books to the 2 year old while you are in the room doing something with the baby (changing, feeding etc). Get a baby sling to carry the newborn in so you can still push the 2 year ol in a buggy or hold hands etc.
Good luck - for me 3 was the perfect number.
2007-03-07 23:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by FC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get your 2 year old into a good routine now and it will be easier when you have the new baby. Include your little girl in everything that goes on with the baby, not just once it is born but also through your pregnancy. Let her help you. When you change a nappy get her a doll so she can change its nappy as well so she feels part of it, little things like that really make a difference. Good luck
2007-03-07 20:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by shez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the other posters, I'd say get your daughter involved completely - way before the baby is born. You could go 'baby' shopping with her for little items for the baby - let her choose - as she'll feel so much more involved. Perhaps you could let her help you get the baby's room ready, make a mobile or get a special toy.
I'd also suggest that, if she doesn't go now, it might be a good time for her to start at playgroup or nursery so she can make friends of her own - she can tell them about the baby before it's born and when it's here. If she has her own set of special friends, she will have peer support to provide stability when the baby does come. (It will also give you some time with the baby, which you'll need in the first few weeks!).
Best of luck and I hope all goes well for you.
2007-03-07 20:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ihave a 2 1\2 and 15 month old and pregnant with baby #3.
so i know all too well.
you will be lucky she is 2 when baby arrives!!
give her a doll to feed and nurse while you are nursing the newborn.
ensure you have a strict routine,this has worked for me and has made the thought of having 3 children under 3 a little easier.my husband is also fantastic and this will be your saving grace!!
good luck
2007-03-07 20:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by gym junkie mummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you get into a routine from day 1 - get the 2 yr old to help you as much as possible, even if its just going to get a nappy / put one in the bin - as gradually, not only will they feel part of it, but also help you out too.
As for your 2 children, make sure you spend quality time with each of them - even if its just a story or a quick half an hour building towers etc.. My aunt has 6 children, and each gets at least half an hour after school for her and them time.
2007-03-07 19:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My new baby is due in july and im a bit anxious and scared. This is my third child and youd think it was my first. My two boys are in school now they are 5 and 6. so im a bit worried as to how i will cope ive seemed to have forgot everything lol. But i bet as soon as my baby comes i will remember everything. Same as you it will all come back to you and it will be a doddle, you will sort at a routine as soon as baby comes as every parent do.
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2016-12-14 13:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the 2 year old help you with the new baby whille you are at home and let the son help when he gets home... make the kids apart of whats going on and not like something that your are trying to hide from them... make sure that you let them help... let them get to know the baby just like you are getting to know the baby... its the brother or sister too.
2007-03-07 19:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mama of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋