dail my fiance is on craigslist and other erotic personals and refuses to stop what should i do.
2007-03-07 19:50:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this can be a slippery slope that's for sure.
i am married, and i have looked on casual encounters, but i have/had no intention of hooking up with someone. i have never cheated on my wife nor do i intend to.
if you are uncomfortable with him looking at porn in general, then get out. i am a porn addict and i know i would be unable to stop. any person who says they told there husband not to look at internet porn and thinks he doesn't is naive. of course he does. besides do you really want to control a person that much?
put him on the ropes, but give him an out. if you say no porn ever, then forget it. it's never going to work. if you say look, i love you, and i know you're a horny bastard, let's talk about what gets you off on that site, or porn in general. tell him cas encounters makes you uncomfortable, and you'd rather he just surf normal porn.
maybe he has a problem with sexual addiction. if you don't already know ask him point blank about his past with sexual topics. prostitutes? massage parlors? escorts? strip clubs? get truth but don't freak out. i am a certified perv and have enjoyed all of those services before i was married, or dating my wife.
i'd say the deal breaker is , has he done any of that while you were dating/engaged? make it clear to him that the price he'll pay for cheating or fooling around is a divorce. before my wife i had cheated with previous girlfriends with massage parlors and the like. when i started dating my wife she told me she caught her ex husband doing the same, and in the end she had to dump him. from then on the message was clear to me. i know it sounds obvious, but say it, make it clear to him.
it's easy to label him as a perv and say move on, but people are more complex than that. i told my wife about all my pervness before we were married so she got full disclosure. get the full story on him and weigh that with all his other qualities. you love him enough to say yes, he loves you enough to ask. that counts for something.
2007-03-08 05:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously it's an issue to you and he's refusing to stop, so I would say that is a big warning sign of what life will be like if you marry. I would recommend you seriously reconsider getting maried to your fiance. Find someone that is compatible with you and doesn't do things that distress you.
2007-03-07 19:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Malcolm L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decide whether you can continue to have a productive relationship with this man if he continues to do it. If you can't then tell him that it's not what you want from a relationship & whether he would be prepared to work at stopping this addiction. If he is not willing to do this then you either stay & mistrust him & be miserable or leave & move on to something more suitable to your needs.
2007-03-07 19:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even imagine how that must make you feel. In my opinion if he's doing things like that it seems like he isn't ready to be with one person. If I were you I'd ask him if he really wants to marry you, because it seems like he wants to play around. I've been married 5 years and my man has not wanted anything to do with another woman. He was like that from before we were engaged. And that is what an girl deserves from her man
2007-03-07 19:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by candace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be worry. Because you never know what will happen one day, if he is keep looking it up. I have friend that told me that people can buy, or order sex from there. So, if he is into sex addiction is bad. I think you should reconsider about this issue.
2007-03-07 19:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably curiosity....I have looked too, and I would NEVER contact any of these people...its more like "morbid curiosity" because some people are just plain weird! Ask your fiance whats up with him looking.....its probably nothing....just curious...
2007-03-08 01:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would Dr. Phil say about this? What banana boat did you come in on? Face it, dummy, he's not marriage material. Have a fling with him and then find someone decent.
2007-03-07 19:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he is looking for or at other women then what are you for ???
if my man was doing that and i toldd him to stop and he said no he sure wouldnt be my man any more
my b/f and i have had this talk he no longer looks at porn on the pc
2007-03-07 20:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him accept it.
I personally would have dumped him and not wait around for an STD (iiccckkkyyy).
2007-03-07 20:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why is so horny. If he is not satisfied with you then ask he to leave and never come back.
2007-03-07 19:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋