I have known him for almost 3 years now and have grew to love him. But he does not know. He does not feel the same for me. Well i have been threw a break up recently and have been dealing with fake people and pushing them out of my life.This guy says he has been a friend and wants to be but i only talk to him when i see him with other friends at get togethers a when i try to be a friend to him he seems to blow me off and it seems one sided. Now i feel bad because he comes to me and wants to be a friend and we both are in a hard place in our lives. But at the same time i need to think of myself and making things better for me. I want to just let things go but it seems like i would be allowing myself to be a hippacrit if i do so just because i love him. How can i be strong and caring at the same time with out hurting myself and others? Is loving someone resone enough to look the other way?
2007-03-07 19:46:25 · 5 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I agree with John. You should always try to look on the bright side of life. I know, I know... easier said than done! But really, if he doesn't feel the same way, there's really nothing to be done... but to remain a good friend.
If you truly have deep feelings for him, chances are the closer you get to him, the more he'll tap into that. Perhaps it'll scare him a bit... perhaps it will intrigue him a bit. But for him to refuse contact all together just because of a little awkwardance would not be a very mature thing to do.
Love is tough! Everyone is different, and there is no sure-fire way of handling such a fragile thing... I wish you only the best!
:D
2007-03-07 19:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend, but demand it of him in return. It should never be one sided. If it is then he isn't really a friend and you should find a real friend instead. You can still be sociable and stuff with him after, just do not depend emotionally on someone that is not dependable.
2007-03-08 03:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Malcolm L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel & how you think that the relationship is a bit one sided - he may not be aware of his actions & may correct them for you or he may run a mile, either way it's a win - win situation.
2007-03-08 03:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let anybody bring you down. you should only worry about yourself before him, his trying to hurt you because he knows AL ready that you do have feelings for him. act like you do not care. you will see how things turn around to be.
2007-03-08 03:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by lizrobledo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like your friendship isn't that close so he wouldn't know. just become good friends and be close and you can tell him and he might feel the same way.
don't worry about what people say. do what is best for you.
2007-03-08 03:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋