I met girl when I worked at another company, we get on well and have nice chats about life in general and other topics and I enjoy her company. We've been out for lunch and a drink after work, but I'm married and don't know if I should even be doing this. I don't fancy her although she is attractive and I'm sure she doesn't see me in anyway than just a friend. I'm also 36yrs and shes 21yrs but we just get on well I enjoy giving her my years of experience. If this was a guy I don't think anything would be said and he would just be a good friend, I do have other women that are friends but all of these friendship were before I met my wife so I still see them with my wife's knowledge what shoud I do?.
2007-03-07 19:43:04 · 8 answers · asked by 247 SEB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even though there is absolutely nothing morally wrong with the relationship you have with this young lady, being married you must consider your wife's feelings first. Would your wife care that you are having lunch with an attractive young lady? If you truly wish to continue this friendship I recommend being up front about it with your wife. If she is okay with it then by all means continue, if not, she is your wife and her feelings must take priority.When you love someone enough to marry them, you must respect their feelings, even if you know there isn't anything for them to worry about.
2007-03-07 19:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by B-Rabbit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is more to your feelings than what you have let on otherwise this relationship would be out in the open with your wife. If she really is just a friend, invite her around for dinner with you & your wife, tell her to bring a special friend. If you can't do that then you probably shouldn't be seeing this girl. Also if you have ever for a moment thought about having sex with this girl then you are heading down the wrong track - back off.
2007-03-07 19:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mishell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact that your questioning this relationship tells me that you have some unease about it. Often times we know inside things could be wrong or just simply dangerous for us and our instincts give us these warnings for a reason. To keep us from hurting ourselves or others. ( most people) My question to you is why havent you told your wife of your new friend? Are you afraid of her reaction? My advice to you would be to talk to your wife. Tell her everything and emphasize that you don't want to do anything that makes her uncomfortable but you enjoy this friendship. If she is uncomfortable , I suggest you keep your relationship strictly business with this girl. I have a personal policy that my husband knows all of my friends and I do not make it a policy to have male friends whom I spend time with alone. Not because he doesnt like it and not because I dont trust myself, but because I want to be avoid even the appearance that I might be doing something to betray my husband. If you think you maybe shouldnt be friends then its a good bet that you shouldnt , to be safe.
hope this helps
2007-03-07 19:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by Talera 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes because your wife might thought that you and she has a relationship.. And tell this to your wife so that she will not suspect whats going on between you two.. So treat her only a friend... This will lead to broken family.. although i am not married yet but i read so much pocketbooks.. It will be too unfair to your wife.. if you dont tell her.. She has the right to know...
2007-03-07 19:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by rhean s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, do not invite this damn woman over for dinner. Come on what the hell was she^ thinking. youd get mualed
2007-03-07 19:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by someoldguy77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
youre married? right? youre old enough to know what's bad from good,okay?
2007-03-07 19:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by heartbeats_tin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u better tell ur wife abt dis girl....if ur wife wldnt mind ur seeing other galfrnds of urs then i m sure she will undrstand ur frndship wit dis girl 2......go on, tell her.....
2007-03-07 19:57:12 · answer #7 · answered by saumya t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not we cant have enough friends ,if the friendship is genuine
2007-03-07 19:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋