Ok, I would like to know how is it in your marriage? What are the things you let your husband do, like party with guy friends, look at porn, ect...Or what things you don't let him do & how would you know he's cheating on you, keeping secrets from you? PLEASE HELP!!! Would love to hear answers soon & suggestions how do you ladies work a good marriage.
2007-03-07 19:25:51 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One of the major components which makes a marriage work is similar priorities.
My husband doesn't go out and party with the guys, but it's not because I "don't let him." It's because he would rather spend time with me. And I know that I would rather spend time with him than hang out with the girls. So, we've developed friendships which allow us to hang out together with our friends instead of separately, because being together and our mutual companionship is a priority.
My husband doesn't drink beer, but it's not because I "don't let him." It's because he doesn't like beer and doesn't like the things that people do when they're drunk. I feel the same way. So we find things to do that don't involve alcohol, because that is an issue which we agree on.
My husband doesn't look at porn, but it's not because I "don't let him." It's because he feels that it is disgusting and degrading to women. I feel the same way -- it's a shared moral value.
Most men don't change after marriage. If he liked to hang out with the guys, go out drinking, look at porn, and flirt with other women before you got married, you can't expect him to suddenly change his viewpoint of all of these things after you marry him.
You can certainly talk to him about how you feel, and try to convince him of your viewpoints, but don't expect an immediate turnaround. By all means, let him know what your needs and expectations are of your marriage, but don't be surprised if his needs and expectations are different. You may need to compromise on some issues, and be prepared for some heartbreaking conversations.
You will feel so much better, however, having your issues out in the open, being on the same page, knowing what the other person needs and desires, and knowing that you're working together to make your marriage successful.
Good luck!
2007-03-10 02:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 09:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to narrow the question down a little bit if you want an answer.
2007-03-08 04:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋