21 male here from India.i am almost living like in a prison my life.I cannot make friends becoz i just dont know how to talk i mean what to say in a particular situation.i am like a mum.My brain is not working properly.Forget talking i even cant understand what others say to me and i just cant reply anything even if i understand them sometimes.I am all the time home only.I dont have enough money also.Whenven when i am i public place i feel like all people around are just staring me.I just cant figure out what the hell is going on.
For the past 9 years i have taken lost of tension in mylife and try to remain isolated from people becoz i had develop tiny boobs like.I feared that people will come to know about it and i tried to avoid talking with people so they might accidentaly come to know abt the boobs.But now i came to know the male can have boobs too becoz of some hormore imbalace.
But even after know that i just cant go out & be social person and make friends.?
2007-03-07 18:37:16 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Learn to talk. Start by talking to yourself if necessary.
This is no different that the person who has not learned to swim because of a personal fear of the water. They must get over the fear first. So it is with you. Get over the fear of communicating with others.
The best way to do this is to just make the mistakes and move on. Stop dwelling on your past. Pull yourself into the present and stop worrying about the future.
2007-03-08 02:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 7 · 10⤊ 1⤋
It is a tough call since we dont' know where you currently live. If English is a second language for you and you live in an english speaking country, then you must learn it more. It is ok to be shy and introverted. Many people are this way. But, since it is a problem for you, you should at least remove any obstacles you have with language.
Record yourself speaking and listen. Practice often...
If you do not live in an English speaking country, and you have problems besides the English language, then you should read out loud. Find books with interesting subjects and read them to yourself. Watch movies and try to mimik the actors...
Once again, practice often...
2007-03-08 16:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by stranger2ooo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have a touch of social anxiety. Go see a doctor and start from there.
2007-03-09 22:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by circuitprotector 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋