Some people are friends with you at the workplace or so. You build healthy friendly relationships. And suddenly due to some incident or reason they turn very hostile towards you. As a person I cant be very impolite and wonder why are they like that. What is the best way to handle them ?
Eg : A collegue of mine became friends with me and we went shopping and movies and met at each others homes for 2 years. Another friend of mine commented on her dress on day and she got angry with me !!I tried talking to her in every way but no. Now she talks to him (my friend who is also our collegue) but not to me. Well the talking is limited to professional aspects.
eg 2. My tenant lived for three years in the my house and I was polite and considerate in every way.The house was spoilt a bit, I spent 50k redoing it, asked him only to pay for painting as per agreement, which that too i reduced to 50% on his request only 3k. Now I gave him the money after reducing costs, he is shouting at me!
2007-03-07 18:20:56 · 11 answers · asked by vittrash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow are you a pushover? Ignore the collegue friend, and pretend she died or something, or never existed, she is a moody monster, who needs her anyway?
And the tenant? WTF kick that freeloader off your house, he is obviously using you and you dont need to take that from someone who is in need of others help. Kick his *** outta your house.
How you should treat the unkind people? simple treat them the same way they treat you, it's only fair right?
ps- are you born on the 22nd?
2007-03-07 19:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by dot. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at times it happens when some people who u r friends with really turn impolite to u because they feel what has happened is because of u. But if they really know and understand u, they would always be back n greet u, really soon after u develop misconceptions. Don't ever be rude, as u said u never be, because u work at a same place n u may always need to converse. About ur collegue, I feel she is just disturbed n angry. I don't know if u would appreciate it but i stop talking to people who r rude to me for some reason. After somedays they themselves start behaving in that nice manner the way they used to n everything gets better. Once u start being talkative again, u can really sit down n clear the matter, if a talk is required only then, if not, simply forget about it n start anew. About ur tenant, well if he/she has really done some damage to ur house, it's their duty to get it repaired but ur cooperation is admirable to solve everything calmy.
2007-03-08 02:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Eesha D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just too nice. The issue with the painting or any other 'fixes' you should have obtained in writing. I suggest that this person now sees that by bullying you they can get away with pretty much anything - be careful!
The one who has switched alliances was never really a friend I'm sorry to tell you. Sometimes you come across people who use and abuse you then leave you feeling like dirt.
I know it's painful but try to move on and keep your guard up.
2007-03-08 02:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kay P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, generally the "right" thing to do is to be polite and try to work it out with words, but your examples seem to call for you to ask these people why they think they can treat you like this. Sometimes people take advantage of you when they know they can. Your first instance seems like a misunderstanding. Ask her why she is so cold to you lately.
Your second situation is tricky. If I was renting from someone I would not pay for any repairs because it is not my house andnot my responsibility. If they agreed and you have it in writing then tell them youa re legally in the right. If they move out then good riddance.
2007-03-08 02:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by GranolaGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people are not true friends, this you should know by now. They are not people that you should want in your life. You can handle it two ways, one is to tell them off and get it off your chest, but you don't really win anything by doing that, just prolong any resentment on both parts.
Or,two, you can let it go, learn from the experiences, but not let it eat at you. You gain nothing from holding in the anger,it only keeps the experiences alive in you and feeds on inner turmoil. I say, get on with you life and consider it their lose that they don't have you as a friend
2007-03-08 02:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by lochmessy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read that the best way to treat those who are unkind to you, those who cause you distress and unhappiness is with kindness and respect. That is because these people are sent into our lives to teach us something about ourselves.
Sounds kind of hard to do though. But it should cost less in legal fees than punching them out.
2007-03-08 02:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sulkahlee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does everyone have to be your friend. You can't let people walk over you for your own sake.
For eg1: Maybe she is shy about, but really likes, the "him" and sees you as a competitor or picking on her because of him.
For eg2: Whats he got to shout about? Sounds like he doesn't want to keep to his side of the bargain.
2007-03-08 02:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of sounds like to me that you let people walk on you a bit. Sorry.....that is just the feeling I get from your post!
2007-03-08 02:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by DRNoraSarasin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know why they are behaving this way, just ignore them to a certain degree, without being nasty, and get on with your life.
2007-03-08 02:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. I'm trying to deal with similar problems myself...
2007-03-08 02:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by ~Amber~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋