I have a question about awards party etiquette?

Question

My exboss whom I have had little contact with in the last 5yrs mailed me an invite 2 a lrg party/charity event in which she will be honored. She also enclosed a card stating how much it would mean to her if she could see my partner and I there. She is also the head chair of this charity where she will be honored. The tickets are $75. I orginally thought that this was an exclusive event, but it is a public event held at a lrg venue. I have sent her a number of invites over the yrs to parties/events and other FREE functions in which I would be hosting and she has never shown up or called. I also send her a holiday card every yr and she never has sent one in return.
I know that she has always been an ultra selfish person but I think this really takes the cake! Can't believe that she wants us to pay $150 to go to an awards event that she PROB voted herself into! I feel guilty about it,so I sent a check to the charity and put on the memo that I was her friend. Thoughts?

Yes this is my exboss.
We can't ( don't want to) go so should I send a thank you for the invite and tell her about my donation??

She does give a lot of $$ to Charity that coincides with her interests. Then makes sure she writes it off on her taxes. Makes her look like a big shot in the community.

Answer 1

well honey, u figure it out by yourself - she just wants your money, not u. this is so cheap. if i were u i would be steaming with rage and wouldn't send anything. i am already steaming with rage for u. do not send her anything, not even for charity. u better go and give these money to some poor people on the street if u feel guilty not to participate in charity event, but do not give this beatch a satifaction of being f'''smart and thinking she can outsmart eveybody. she is a shallow beatch who is taking advantage of people. just ignore her invitation and others which might be