Does true love exist outside marriage?

Question

Over 60 percent of marriages today face this kind of turn out...one partner claiming to have found his/her perfect match elsewhere. My query is...why marry in the first place!

Answer 1

It seems to me that your question has two parts.

"Does true love exist outside of marriage?" I wasn't sure what you meant by this. Of COURSE love exists outside of marriage. I love my wife, but I also love my family, my friends, etc. It's not erotic love, but it is love.

I don't know that there are any really "perfect" matches in life. There may be, but finding them certainly isn't easy. Try eHarmony.com I don't know.

"Why marry in the first place?" Why?

That's a question only YOU can answer. What do you want - or not want - out of life?

I'm not saying that two people couldn't be TOTALLY committed to one another and not be married; in other words, just living together. Of course they could do that. Problem is - that's not usually the case.

I've just seen too many people talking about things like "personal space" (and btw, I've got all the personal space I need in my marriage) and "lack of freedom." I say that's a bunch of bs.

People who put down marriage are either too self-centered to survive in a long term relationship, or they're just afraid to put it all on the line and commit.

Hey, life is one big gamble; one big "risk assessment." There are no guarantees. You put your heart on the table and spin the wheel.

Answer 2

Life before marriage is always wonderful. When you get married, it is different. It gets a little challenging when two different human beings with two different culture and upbringing are trying to live under one roof 24/7. That is why along the way, you feel out of love with your spouse especially when there is someone else that makes you feel comfortable. So if you have to ask yourself - do you want to try to make your marriage work or you have tried and failed and are willing to move on with a new partner. In the past, marriages last longer because women in the past were so dependent on their husbands even how unhappy they were. In the past also, men were not open to such 'fun' which are becoming more normal now.

Yes, why marry in the first place! But again, why be born in the first place? Nobody could tell what tomorrow brings.

Answer 3

Marry to give your children a real chance to succeed by giving them a stable loving family relationship. The majority of couples still marry and have children within a loving committed relationship for many decades. It's those in the uncommitted relationship who are just playing house that fail at marriage or don't marry at all.

Answer 4

Most people agree the marriages go wrong before they even start. Many rush into marriage not really knowing what they are getting in to. One of the biggest reasons for divorce is financial reasons, so make sure you understand what you're getting into beforehand. It's not even people liking someone more then the person they're connected to, it's more of them looking for a way out.

Answer 5

The problem is not with marriage; the problem is with people who are selfish, uncommitted and infected with liberalism. They think that marriage is like a job you can quit if problems arise, or that it's time to move on.

I really want to outlaw divorce, except if one partner is unfaithful. Then, the faithful partner must get everything under mandatory law, without the possibility of some liberal judge deciding differently.

Answer 6

well , they probably dont know what love is in the first place , our society is sooo stained of sex , and chemistry and physical attraction that we lost the standards of pure true love that lasts ..... now most marriage loose the " excitment" and the married couple start looking for it somewhere else and when they find it , they think they found " love" again....its a really abd thing , resulting in a very dismanted culture...this is a major problem too , i mean think of all the kids who are going through this with their parents

Answer 7

Post marital relationship is quite different , for most of the couples, to the pre-marital situations....But, yes, true love always exists, both outside & inside the marriage.

Answer 8

That's like saying...ah to heck with marriage, just sleep with whomever you want and have a relationship and not get married. This means more STD's and less committed real lasting relationships. People know how to GIVE UP these days and don't know how to have responsible long lasting relationships. It takes work...like everything else in life.

Answer 9

is your Q. : Does true love exist outside marriage?..... or : why marry in the first place ...... ????? ~ ~ well, of course true love exists outside marriage! Do you think it magically happens while your reciting your holy wedding vows? True love is capable of existing ANYWHERE! ~ ~Why marry in the 1st place? Because people are dumb, selfish, greedy, horny, delussional, crazy,etc etc etc - get the picture?

Answer 10

Considering that most marriages end in divorce anyway, it doesn't matter if love exists outside of marriage, when it apparently doesn't exist inside of a lot of marriages.