feel lost now. We were together 6 yrs 2 kids and all he done was drag me down and introduce me to drugs. I want happiness and cant seem to get it. Why? Why cant I just find someone to apprectiate me? Why cant I get my life to what it was? A car,home etc. It has been so long since I laughed
2007-03-07 17:49:27 · 11 answers · asked by hardcore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How long have you been free from your relationship? It really takes time to get back to the person you were. You never really get whole after an abusive relationship, and becuase of this, you need to learn from your past. Spend alot of time with the kids. They are healing too. Good luck. I've been there and I learned that you can be hard on your next partner if you don't give it time.
2007-03-07 17:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by daisyjzmum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Why cant I get my life to what it was? A car,home etc" Those things never made you feel good. They're things not people. People make you feel good.
"It has been so long since I laughed"
Get a group of girl friends together and take a night out at the local comedy club. Blow some steam off.
Now, to the real problem: Feeling guilty for being in an abusive relationship to start with. So, did you learn anything? Will it happen again? yeah, it might, but you know the warning signals now.
Take a rest from the going out or dating thing until someone
comes along that you really want to jump their bones. Don't feel that way? Don't get involved then. Ya gotta have chemistry this time around because you've gotta focus more on what you want this time. Only, clowns make you laugh and don't always wear a clown-suit and red nose. Well, maybe the red nose part is true, but its not painted on.
2007-03-07 18:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your question of why can't you find someone to appreciate you shouldn't be a priority right now. It sound like you need to spend some time on you and your children. Don't worry about finding someone new. If you are still into the drugs, that should be first to be fixed. If you fear leaving your boyfriend, seek help. Call someone you trust and get yourself and your children out of a dangerous situation. As far as having a car and a home, those things don't just come to people. You have to work hard and make sacrifices. Even if that means working two jobs, then that's what you have to. The decisions we make early in life map out our options later in life. Unfortuantly the man you chose to become the father of your children is not the man you hoped he would be, and now you are going to be a working single mom. Good luck and try to stay positive. Remember that everything you do and every decision you make will affect your children.
2007-03-07 18:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by JENNIFER C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a relationship for six years now. I lost my pride,self respect,smile,heart,friends and life. I found it though. I got sober. Let the past go and believed in god. I believed in god for my new start. believed that if he could make the rain . He'd take away all the hate and pain.
Believed that he knew what tomorrow bring.
That he would heal the heart of a very loving human being. i started by forgiving myself for what i let him put me through. Quit looking for someone to fulfill the thing in life that you should fulfill yourself first. Make yourself happy. I know that seems impossible at times but it can happen I promise. I'm living proof. Life will never be the same exactly because the scars will always be there. The key is to let the scars heal. Find ways to escape the pain. For example take the pain and put it on paper in a poem. I have wrote a lot of it and it seems to help. Happiness comes from within. You have to be happy with yourself in order to be happy with others. that's why I said to make yourself happy. One more thing I would like you to remember If you always do what you have always done then you will always get what you have always got.
2007-03-07 18:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by kristalpeep 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have your children that is all that matters right now, i'm am going through a divorce, well trying, and my soon to be ex is already living with another woman and her kid, and he hasn't seen his daughter going on 3 months, and i can't seem to find anyone to even talk to, and i feel lonely i have my daughter though. I'm sure we will find someone to appreciate us, it might take time though. When i wake up to my daughter in the morning, that is my smile, its wonderful. Good luck, i hope you have a good life from now on, you deserve it. My ex and i were together for 4 years.
2007-03-07 17:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it's because you were sad for so long snd now you want to be happy but you just don't know how. when you wake up in the morning you should set a goal for urself and tell ur self that you are someone special and you don't need drugsor guys.
im sure you have lots of ppl who care but when you are depressed you have the "**** the world " kind of attitude
you have to love and appreciate urself b4 others can b.c no one will EVER love u more then you love and respect urself!
2007-03-07 17:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 17:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look on the bright side you have 2 beautiful kids who need their mother, I know things aren't what you want them to be but NEVER lose hope and remember that a house, car etc WILL NOT happen overnight...see what resources are out there and use them and before you know it you will have everything that you want
2007-03-07 18:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of unanswered questions here, but i would first suggest a support group of some kind so that you can find true friends, learn to appreciate yourself, and build your life up from there. God bless and good luck.
2007-03-07 17:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because its gonna take a damn long time to get back on track but ya gotta start sometime why not now?!
Consolidate your debt and organize everything get help for the drugs and make new (better) friends
2007-03-07 17:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋