I know this friend for a at least 5 years and he loves to call me nasty names and like to see that I'm in bad situation so he could get a good laugh. And on top of that he told me he doesn't want to see me do better than him. What would you do with this friend?
2007-03-07 17:44:55 · 36 answers · asked by Believe me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My thanks to everyone who answered this question with sincerity.
2007-03-07 19:04:33 · update #1
This is NOT a friend! Find other people and make some real friends. Your supposed friend lacks self esteem and his/her taken it out on you is their salvation,.....to bad what a loss they will have when you realize that they are not your friend and the end up the big loser not you.
2007-03-07 17:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by ffperki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let him get the best of you. It's obvious you are a threat to this so-called 'friend', if he's telling you that he doesn't want you to do better than him on anything.
I would have to say that your friend is VERY insecure with himself, and doesn't take humiliation well, and may be a poor sport, if he loses in something.
Don't let him win, though. If you're good at something, then pursue that, and don't let him get the upper hand, just because you feel bad for him.
Teach him a thing or two. If you're in a situation that he sees as an opportunity to humiliate you or laugh at you, when you're down, just know that there will come a time in his life where he needs someone, and you won't be there for him, and most likely, NO one will be there for him.
He needs to learn to appreciate people more, and by not giving into his petty insecurity, you are letting him know that nothing will stand in the way of your success.
Don't lower yourself to his level, though. If he calls you names, don't reply with name-calling of your own. That will only add fuel to his fire, and that's what he's looking for - a reaction from you so he can KEEP humiliating you!!
Next time he succeeds in something and rubs it in your face, tell him, "I wouldn't say such nasty things to your friends, on the way UP the ladder of success, because you might be crossing their path, on your way DOWN that ladder, when you fail...and who will be there for you then??"
Just let him know that it's not a competition, because you will succeed in everything you do, no matter what he does, with his life!
2007-03-07 17:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by argamedius 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that makes this most delicious salad. It compares to no other. So when she brings it to the gathering I tell everyone it is the most nasty stuff you could ever eat! No one eats the salad and I have it all to myself. I had no clue that she was hurt over this. Until another friend at a gathering said, " If its so nasty why is that's all your eating?" I said " Its so good I didn't want to share!" My friend busted out laughing and confess that she misunderstood all this time and her feelings had really been hurt. Just goes to show you how things get easily misunderstood between friends.
I to had a friend that told me what your friend had told you and every time I did or something great happened Id call him and tell him he needed to get on the ball because before long I would be heading towards greatness and I didn't want to leave him behind! God Bless You and Your Friend may you be friends for many more years.
2007-03-07 18:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would realize that he only keeps company with me because I have not been more successful than him. I would realize he needs me, in order for him to feel confident about himself. He has no self worth and is weak and unable to stand up and be self confident amongst high achievers, he is afraid to fail in front of them he needs to appear as more successful than another in order to feel honorable or worthy. If you can bear the responsibility of this fragile person, I would stay his "friend" but realize you are the "strong achiever" here and he needs you. Try to explain to him nicely and helpfully to understand his problem and work on it, to build his confidence. But realize this is not friendship on his part, but he is a person in need of a friend.
2007-03-07 17:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by Faerie loue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay away from him, he sounds rude, selfish and envious...qualities you can find in enemies not true friends, just let him go on his own way. Not worth even talking about much less talking to. Good Luck.
2007-03-07 17:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a very good friend to me. If he's not just horsing around, I would find someone else to hang with.
2007-03-07 17:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by DizziDazi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He would not be my friend anymore. Basically, he ain't got nothing going on in his life. You deserve to be around positive and supportive friends . He 's obviously not happy with his life,so he puts you down. Girlfriend,dump the jerk.he is not worth your time!
2007-03-07 17:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by sweetbtfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get lost. Why in the world would you consider him a friend in the first place?
2007-03-07 17:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UUMMMM........ Gee let me think.............. Great friend to say those types of things. Why would you hang around with someone that belittles, insults, and wishes bad things for you?? Find new friends that support you and want good things for you as he obviously doesnt give a damn about you.
2007-03-07 17:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised that you even call this person a friend. He sounds like a jackass and I would kick him in the neck. Get rid of him.
2007-03-07 17:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by Amy A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋