Young marriages...are you guys for it or oppose it?

Answer 1

I got married at 18 and have been married for 11 years. It has been a long and extremely bumpy road. Almost ended in divorce many times but somehow we have always managed to make it work. The first question I usually get is "were you pregnant." No I was not just truly in love, still am though there have been times I didnt feel this way. Someone told me something years ago and I believe it with all my heart. If you truly love someone, you can work through anything if you try. Another thing is I would advice anyone to live together before marriage. I know a lot of people wont agree with me but I feel this way you are able to see each others daily habits and learn whether or not there are things that you can/cannot live with therefore it would save the hassle of having to go through a divorce. If you need more advice or have questions send me a message. Good luck!!

Answer 2

Under 18, I oppose it. I recommend waiting until both are mature and responsible with enough education to have a good job and a steady job. That doesn't mean you have to go to college 4 years. Some community colleges have 1-year courses or 2 year degrees in all sorts of fields. And sometimes, young people luck up and get on with a good company right after high school for on-the-job training and move up within the company.

The more financially stable you can be, the better chances of making it through those first few years. Plus, waiting until you are married a few years to start a family.

I was almost 21 when I got married. My husband was almost 20 and had 5 more months of community college left. (Also note that we had already dated 4 years, so we had a long courtship) We have made it 25+ years, but I think it might be harder now to marry at that young age than it was then.

Answer 3

I never have a preference about what others should do, but I can say that if I had married the first man I loved I would have not been happy because I was too young (19) and didn't have the foresight to know what to look for in a husband.
I think everyone has to grow up so fast because of our culture so I think it's important to be fulfilled as an adult for yourself before you can be useful as a spouse to anyone else.
Although the right age to marry is different for everyone, I took some advice from a book when I was younger by a marriage counselor and it said it's important to have enough experiences as a single adult to make you feel fulfilled without needing someone else to make you feel fulfilled.
I worry about my friends who got married when they were young because they seem to have missed out on things like having their own place and decorating how they want and they are unhappy because they feel they missed out.
It's important to make sure you have lived enough without your spouse to make sure you have something to offer. My husband and I didn't meet until we were 27 and married 5 years later. We love that we both got to travel and experience things without each other so when we experience it together, we have something to compare it to and know how to give it our all and add to the experience.

Answer 4

Marriage is COMPLETELY dependent on the people involved. In general, people married young have a VERY rocky marriage and those marriages have a tendency not to last very long. But when the people involved are right, they are some of the best marriages around.

I am not opposed to young marriages. (18+ of course)

Answer 5

I am for marriage in general but young marriages usually fail. There is already a 50% percent divorce rate in the US. Being young makes that rate rise. My husband and most of his friend's got married at a young age. Only one of those couples is still together, but she married a man 14 years her senior.

My husband got married right after he turned 18 and his wife was 17, two kids and a divorce later he is now married to me. He loves his kids but recognizes the major mistakes he made with getting married so young because his brother went to college, had it paid for, and is now an officer in the navy. Just like his entire family, he on the other hand has spent 9 years enlisted in the navy, been struggling every step of the way and has been fighting for stablilty and custody of his kids. He is now just getting the chance to work on his college degree, while his brother 4 years younger then him now makes 4 times more then him by just joining the navy.

Now he is in a position that we can't do anything or make any plans in our lives without his ex wife's permission or knowledge of it. We can't drive on a family trip or have any family plans without interference with his ex and her family. He thought he would be married forever, she had other plans. He has been paying for it ever since and is just now discovering what he wants out of life since he never did it before he became a husband and father.

I come from a family who waits to get married and don't have a divorce in the family yet, including extended family. I couldn't imagine being married out of high school or in college. I was mature but not in a position to fully understand the needs of a marriage.

Answer 6

Most people aren't mature enough to get married until they are at least in their mid twenties. Of course, there are exceptions - some teenagers are perfectly ready to deal with the responsibilites of marriage, and some folks in their thirties aren't even ready yet. But generally, most young people are totally unprepared for the level of committment involved in a marriage (which is why so many of them get divorced so quickly!)

Answer 7

I dunno. I can't say that i fully oppose it but i'm not totally for it either. I got married like a week or so after my 18th birthday and we just recently got divorced after being married for almost 3 yrs. So now that I have done it and gone through it I regret it in some ways but in other ways i know that is what i really wanted at the time. i still love him but he didn't feel the same way anymore. So i guess for ppl things work out and for others it don't. But i don't think that has anything to do with age-cuz that happens to older ppl too.

Answer 8

Neither. The probability of a marriage working out doesn't rely on age. I know plenty of people who got married in their 30s and are no longer together, but I also know couples who got married out of high school and have been very happy and are still YEARS later. Ya just never know, I guess.

Answer 9

as long as you're legally old enough to make that decision and your partner is also of sound mind, then go for it. true love should never hold itself back because of parents or other crap. just don't get married if you two cannot even support yourselves. marriage is like having a built-in best friend. sometimes it can be hell, but then only the Brady Bunch was perfect.

Answer 10

it all depends on the couple in love most people don't even know it when they fall in love and have it right in front of you every single day if the timing is right for the couple you will know it and not have any doubts about it some people it takes longer in life then it does others and then you have some that never grow up to that stage fully if you come to the stage where you have no doubt that s/he is the one for you grab it with all hands on board and give it a go you as long as you love each other and are willing to have the things that make it work and that is all that you will need