I would like to hear thoughts from anyone who has had experience in this matter. Not really how it played out for the parents, but rather the emotional impact for child. ANY honest answers would be greatly appreciated.
2007-03-07 16:46:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would like to hear from those who have experience in this matter (children and parents). The arrangement for the past two years is that i am the primary custodian while the child sees mother three weekends out of the month.
2007-03-07 17:40:17 · update #1
Well it depends. Some joing custody allows one parent to be primary custodian of child while the other parent has visitation but acess to all info and legal rights to help decide about school, child care, health situations ect. This type of custody is easier for the child because they have a primary home and are not shuffeling back and forth. The other joing custody where they spend time with each parent 50/50 is emotionally hard. There is no real security because they are constantly moving from one place to another, different rules, different homes, different lifestyles. They are forced to become like a chamelion and adapt to each enviorment and in the meantime can lose sight of who they are and what they want. It does get easier when the child is older and able to process and explain their feelings, if they choose to do so. Good luck
2007-03-07 16:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Shyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through a divorce, and i DON'T want my soon to be ex to have joint custody and i'm going to fight every minute, because while we were together it was VERY rare that he took care of her, and he couldn't keep a job, because he was too lazy, and he is living with other women and still married by law, i think he shouldn't have joint custody, plus he lives like 5 hours away. I think if you are going to have joint custody the kid should be taken care of 24 7, but my ex hasn't seen our daughter in almost 3 months, and hasn't sent me anything to help out, which i don't need whatever he does have. Good Luck, i hope you make the right decision.
2007-03-07 18:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, how old is the child, and do the child know the difference who he or she would like to be with the most, who he/she would like to live with, if the child is small he can adjust to the move every 6 month or on and off visitation here and there.But yes i think it good because a child need to know that both his parents love him.
2007-03-07 16:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by I am women 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joint custody is very good for the kids i think that way you neither one can say you cant this or you cant that when it comes to the kids and besides they dont need to go through anymore changes than they already have.
2007-03-07 17:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by remedy 4 u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has to do with the relationship of the parents, if they can keep from fighting in front of the child then sure. if one of the parents is less likely to fight with the other in front of the child then that is the better choice. the main point is us kids need stability, we would love to see both our parents... but seeing them fight is alot worse emotionally than not seeing them often.
2007-03-07 16:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by spazmffn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is if the child loves both parents
2007-03-07 16:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think its good for the kids . thy get to see you both. and spend good time with both
2007-03-07 16:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is..both parents are important.
2007-03-07 16:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋