I have a problem, I admit it. I am approval-addicted and want other people to like me. So whenever anyone talks about anything, I bring up something in my past life that is also related to that-- it makes me feel included and it makes me more interesting to the person talking.
My boyfriend has a problem with this. Especially as it pertains to sports. He's a sports fanatic and follows football and basketball... knows everything there is to know about them. I don't know very much; I have no real loyalty for one team, but I like to cheer on my favorite players. When we went to a basketball game today, I was joined in a lively conversation with my other friends using what little sports terminology I possessed, and talking about basketball. True, it's something I wouldn't ordinarily talk about, but my boyfriend sees this as being "poser-ish", since he knows I don't follow sports but I'm trying to sound sports-savvy and like I know something about it or really like it.
2007-03-07 16:41:26 · 4 answers · asked by reba 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He is visibly irritated and skeptical that I would understand or genuinely be interested in something he knows so much about, and whenever I talk about playing basketball since it's something I'd like to start doing-- he thinks I'm just being poser-ish again and trying to do something he does. Why doesn't this make sense to me? Don't guys usually LIKE for their gf's to try to like something they like?
What's going on, and what should I do? (please none of that break up with him! he's a jerk! business... I've heard it already)
Thanks!
2007-03-07 16:43:06 · update #1
Try to explain to him what you said here, or show him this. Also, ask him about basketball and instead of talking about it, listen to him. You'll learn about it and hopefully he will realize that you are noy being poser-ish.
2007-03-07 16:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by iq_two 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to your boyfriend about it. Ask him to help you. Another alternative is to buy one of those books like Football for dummies...etc. There is another book A womans guide to sports, I think is the name of it.
2007-03-08 00:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's intimidated! Plain and Simple! Sounds like he doesn't want you to get too involved in his pastime. Maybe he likes that its a "guy" thing. He's making excuses instead of saying what's Really on his mind. Tell him to "keep it real".
2007-03-08 01:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
argue your opinion but show that you understand his.. my man and i are opposite... but he tends to love me agreeing with him lol so thats a bit different.. i'd say just be yourself.. and see how he reacts... if you do just agree.. then tell him thats how it is, and that you're just expressing yourself.
2007-03-08 00:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by ames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋