2007-03-07 16:37:46 · 27 answers · asked by friend 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My kids range from 13,9,4. I have meet lots of people, but I wonder if I want to much. Or looking for someone that don't exsist
2007-03-07 18:08:49 · update #1
No, but I think sometimes when someone isn't looking for something they find it. I would focus on being happy with myself and then the rest may fall into place.
2007-03-07 16:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never give up on love. Just get your priorities straight, that way you will make a good decision when love comes around.
Sing along:
"(This Is A) Song For The Lonely"
When you're standing on the edge of nowhere
There's only one way up
So your heart's got to go there
Through the darkest night
See the light shine bright
When hero's fall, in love or war
They live forever
[Chorus:]
This is a song - for the lonely
Can you hear me tonight
For the broken hearted, battle scared I'll
Be by your side
And this is a song - for the lonely
When your dreams won't come true
Can you hear this prayer
'Coz someone's there for you
We'll love don't need a reason
She can pick you up
Or leave you bleeding
I've seen a strong man cry
I know the reason why
We all forgive, we all forget
We just keep believing
[Chorus]
So let it find you
Wherever you may go
I'm right beside you
You don't have to look no more
You don't have to look no more, oh no
[Chorus]
It's gonna be alright
It's gonna be alright
It's gonna be alright
This is a song
A song for the lonely
And that's not you only
Through the darkest night
You're gonna see the light
Love don't need a reason
Just to leave you bleeding
Can you hear this prayer
Someone's there
This is a song - for the lonely
Can you hear me tonight
For the broken hearted, battle scared
I'll be by your side
And this is a song
for the lonely
2007-03-07 16:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation, and it's frustrating yes. I just broke up with someone whom I miss deeply. I want to give up all the time, especially when I think of how much I was hurt in the past. I don't though, I just don't actively search. It will happen when you least expect it...last time I thought I met "the one" I just happened to be having fun at a friend's house and he was there for the football game (as well).
Anyway, just be patient. It's tempting to hate men or give up altogether, but resist this urge. I sit here and answer f*cking yahoo questions and listen to music when I get a little lonely. Sometimes you can find entertainment in the smallest things, while you're waiting on Mr. Right. I hope this helps. Just wanted to let you know you're not the only 30 something chick out here waiting for "him" to show up:-) Continue to be a mom, putting energy into your child or children...they don't need to see you feeling down. I wish you luck!
2007-03-07 17:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by Gorgeous George 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no, don't ever give up. You can be a good mom and still be a woman. Just because your kids must be your first priority doesn't mean you have to give up on love or sex or anything else. Relax and just let it happen if it comes along. You are obviously a good mom since you are willing to give up on a life of your own for the kids, but as long as you find a man who understands you are a mom first you can have it all.
You are a woman as well as a mom, don't forget that. You deserve to be happy and fulfilled in every way.
2007-03-07 16:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by Polly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, you can have the best of both worlds! People find love at all stages in life - 20s, 30s, 40s... even 80s! Don't give up - I'm sure you have a lot going for you, a lot of assets that guys would love! You can meet plenty at group activities - cooking classes, scuba diving lessons, the gym, bars with friends.
Maybe if you find yourself juggling too many activities (household work, job, kids), you can try Match.com or eHarmony.com. I know it sounds silly, but three friends of mine met their spouses on eHarmony and couldn't be happier.
Good luck, and don't give up!
2007-03-07 16:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Give up on looking for it, but don't close yourself to it. You can't force love. As soon as you stop looking, it'll come. That's the way the world works.
I'm 26, self employed, goodlooking, and really nice and funny, and I date women in their thirties almost exclusively. Some have children, some don't. The point is, just because you're in your thirties and you have a kid doesn't mean that you're hopeless.
But you should be happy solo. Happiness will not be found in another man. Happiness is within you. I can't go into further detail here because I'd write a whole book, but don't be so needy. Rely on yourself.
All is said with due respect. Oh, and if you're in Denver, call me. ;)
2007-03-07 16:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Brianman3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No , don't give up. Be available, be aware. Don't put another mans bad baggage on the new guy. Be open but virginal. Have fun enjoy the day dates.
At your age the game is different. Being in your thirties , you really know how to act in your twenties.
Those days are done.
Where you meet a man makes a difference. Stay clear of bars. Malls, church, super markets are fine. Keep your ring finger noticeably bare.
be friendly and approachable but modest in dress.
Accent your positives discretely and cover your negatives.
The guys in your sites are most likely divorced . they are also fish out of water and don't know how to act. Mr. confident is usually just looking for sex.
It is better to slowly get to know them , but please show your interest and fear of casual romps. Make it too easy for them and they will assume it's easy for everybody and not take you seriously.
Yes this guy is a different animal. Good ones are there. Whether or not a good one acts good is up to you. You call the shots.
Good hunting.
2007-03-07 16:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't give up on love. Everyone should have love. You just need to balance love life and motherhood. It can be hard. If it is with the right person, you will figure it out naturally. When it starts to get serious though, make sure your kids feel comfortable around this person. Because he won't just be loving you. He has to accept your children. Afterall your children are apart of you. If you can't accept you and your children-it's not worh it. However, give it time. Lovein itself is worth it. If anything is meant to happen it will happen. Also, you don't have to go loving for love. Sometimes love finds you.
2007-03-07 16:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend...I am 39 and I am having the same thought as you. I have accepted that I am going to have to wait till my youngest is much older ...she is 8 now. Guys hear that I have 4 kids and they scatter!!!! Too bad cuz I am a great catch! Thats ok. I am going to concentrate on my kids because darling, they grow so fast!!!! My oldest is going to be 14 in a few weeks!!!! So I have accepted and embrace the fact that I am going to be a mom...if love happens to find me great. But I am done looking for now! Hugs!
2007-03-07 16:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way ! So what if you're 30 ? You've got heaps of time to find love. Being a mother doesn't mean just being one thing - a mother. You have needs, wants and desires too. You can try to focus on being a mother, which is good, but sometimes you might want to find love too. Everybody deserves love.
2007-03-07 16:41:18 · answer #10 · answered by rainbowstylin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! Life is just beginning. You need to map out what type of individulas you would like to relate to. Don't just settle for anyone, but make sure that this individual relates well with children as well. It is hard to balance both with the wrong mate. It can be a beautiful experience if you decide on someone who can love you and yours.
2007-03-07 16:45:10 · answer #11 · answered by cynthia2817@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋