2007-03-07 16:36:49 · 6 answers · asked by BICHEF30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have been in an affair since i got married with a lady who divorced in some cronical circumstances at that time when i got in the affair i was frustated and i have been out of beleive that there is any existence of love in the lworld right then she met me and she changed my whole openion and approach toward life i feel that she is that perfect lady for which i was looking since ever she is quite perfect in all aspect of life as far my wife she is also a good one but at the time of our begining of maried life when i expected her a good caring partner she proved very careless and i got hurted in short in the context of present time i love very very much to my girl friend and also sme time i cant hurt my wife also but now i m in a fix what to do is it right to leave my gf only becos of social fear is it a humanity when a person support u love u and gave her all valuabe time for 10yrs pl help me what should i do
2007-03-07 16:51:27 · update #1
i have 3 kids and my gf has aso adopted a child also when my gf is totally depends on me hw can i leave her abondoned before getting marid i was dertermined to be loyal to my wife but she didnt reponded me as per my requirement hw far is it right to leave my gf all expences of my wife and my gf are born by me cant i take up to the end of my life bcos my gf has no other alternative besides me i m thining of another alternative as my wife is not 100% satisfied sith my performance in bed because she has some few extra ponds so i couldnt get her up to the end which she rquires although i have well built figure i have not any problm of low stamina short length on the other side my gf is 200%satisfied with me in all respect i m thinking that if i have an affair some where wy my wife should not if she desire to do so i have no problem with this bcos every body have the right to enjoy his life in his or her own way but i dont know wheather she will do this or not but some time i judged postive
2007-03-07 17:57:55 · update #2
if she got some body who love her as i love my gf i wuld have no problem i would hapily meet her bf and oenly allow them to do all that which i do to my gf i entertain them in all respect but in reverse i would expect from her the same thing i fantacise that we are both in the same room with our gf and bf and we enjoy openly .........pl tell me is this wrong or is this posible i m confused will my wife tell me about her bf i dont know why i m o eager to do so tell me i m mad what drives me to think so pl aelp me
2007-03-07 18:05:17 · update #3
iss it a sin to live with ur own fantacies from earlier days i fantacised a girl who act as i want and i ll also as shje want frankly speaking i always think of variety in sex by saying so i m not going to vote in favour of multiple sex partner but i m insisting to fry ur same pulse in deffrent recipies daily so that to maintain ur taste as i think there is not any thing wrong in sex v should do as our partner wish and she must as her partner wish to do is there any problem u cant believe in my earlier days i m a most u can say curupted caracter in the field of sexual life but since i met that girl 10yrs has been passed away i m so honest for her that perhaps i might be ever this could be happen becouse of only that girl m,y gf she is well aware of my married life and i also told my wife about this instance one time but now she thinks that i m not regular with the girl on one hand there is a girl who gave me all that whichj i had ever desiore from my wife and on the other hand my wife
2007-03-08 19:51:17 · update #4
who cares my family my kids and me also she good in house keeping but very poor in bed but my gf is perfect in keeping all aspect of life in perfect cordination let it this discussion u pls guide me that in the prent context when i have own the libility of two ladies after a long period of 10yrs can i able to hurt any of them is itn better to leave my gf i cant but *** far my wife that also i cant i m in fix my problem can understand only wo have the same situation in life if i talk about society u can c maximum cases of this type but they dont care i m only worried about both of them becouse none of them had not done anything wrong to me my gf has passed her 10yrs of valuabe time of life behind me today my opinion about love god morality social values has chainged positively becos of her except this i neveer expect my self to tru to one woman start believe in god and his justice
2007-03-08 20:07:16 · update #5
Its safe , & firstly it avoids guilty about relationship.
Avoids hurting comments by people around u, & it is the one considered as legal relationship by our culture & custom.
So its better than premarital relationship
2007-03-07 16:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok if you are helping her out on humanitarian terms. But you want her for your desires. That's wrong.
You say you will leave her if she could find a bf who could take care of her. That's a lame excuse. You are trying to hide your desire on humanitarain grounds. you wanna make sure that the girl is secure. But you don't care where your family could land becasue of your actions. Did you ever think the same about your wife? Did you ever feel the guilt of not being able to cope up with the one who is out there with you for life?
After bearing 3 kids, you realise that your wife cannot meet your requirements. for that reason you fell for this girl. Another lame excuse. It's actually your selfish attitude. How would you have reacted if your dad had done the same when you were kid?
I'd rather make sure that the bullet goes through your brains dismantling it completely. I just hate hypocrites.
Better concentrate on your married life. Love your wife. Understand her needs. The best thing you can do for your kids is love their mother. But you choose the love someone else for your desire...
2007-03-08 17:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame for the society in which we live. Why don't you leave your wife and let her save herself from a most wonderful creature on the earth. You need to shift your self and your girlfriend to foreign country where no one will object you. Don't spoil my india.
2007-03-08 05:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by RUBY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce your wife..
She deserves to have a good husband...
Leave your g/f...
She does not want a cheater..
Start over in a more mature & honest manner...
2007-03-08 01:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u hv kids u conentrate in them ok
u hv already enjoyed a lot
2007-03-08 01:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DELUDE YOURSELF YOU ARE A SLAVE TO PASSION AND ARE JUSTIFYING YOUR ABERRATION.
2007-03-08 11:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋