her familys having alot of troubles and i kid you not ive been here an its pretty bad im not supposed to get in a lot of detail but you get the gist and they want me to stay to help out and she wants me to stay so we can be together (its sort of a long distance relationship at the moment) but we've only been together 8 mo do you think i should move there an help out with her family or not cause it might be rushing things and can you please give an explanation
2007-03-07 16:14:57 · 6 answers · asked by will B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would not make their problems your problem, oh well so they have problems, so does everybody else in this life time...I would not let my son move in w/a family that had problems, because he would end up getting caught up, and then he will end up doing things he really wouldn't want to. All to be with a girl you've only been w/for 8mos. That's not even a long enough relationship to be a part of a family w/these terms and conditions. The reason why I say this is because you need to worry about your own life, and if you want this girl in your life moving in w/the family is going to create a lot of conflict between you both, and w/the family. It sounds good, will look good, remember everyone will be in your business and your girls business. Take care of your money, and let them be! I am sorry, just use your common sense! It is not good to bring your girl to live w/mom or vise versa, it is not good to work for family, and it is not worth moving in w/a family who wants to use you for what ever the reasons are! If you like DRAMA you will do it, if you don't like DRAMA you will, mind your own business! It pays off in the long run, you will have a lot more respect or people will say what they want to rather they like you or not, doing good or doing bad! We never make anyone happy in this world!
2007-03-07 16:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by HOPE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because she wants you to move in with her for all the wrong reasons, you haven't been in a relationship with her for very long and moving in together is a would bring about alot more stress to the relationship given the fact that her family is already having troubles, if its financial problems then what would happen if you couldn't find a job right away or lost your job etc, if you really want to be with her the its best to get your own place within the same town or distance from hers so that you can have your place and privacy to develop the relationship without all the outside stress from what is going on at her house.....
2007-03-08 19:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can move ' by' her but not with her. If you feel this is moving too fast - it is. When a couple chooses to live together its not for the reasons you give, or for sex or to not go home at night. Its because its the right time to move the relationship to the next level.
I don't know what's going on with her family but when you say pretty bad it sounds like its abuse. However, it could also be money. Either way, you can't be a knight in shinning armor if its not the time. You can't save an entire family - and its not your job.
If you move close - consider it...but don't move in. Not now. You don't sound ready at all.
2007-03-08 00:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, moving together will hurt your relationship. I know you think its a good test and it would help their family. Studies show that couples that move together are much much much more likely to get divorced if they ever get married. If you really want to help their family, marry her, and live close enough by her family so that the two of you can support her family.
2007-03-08 00:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by spockofvullcan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really loved her truly.
Mabybe you should ask her to marry you then when you get married it will be alot easier to settle in your new home
2007-03-08 00:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by alyssa_kaneohe808 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say NO.....I wouldnt move in with her...
2007-03-08 00:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋