Divorce Parents, What kind of relationship do you have with your ex?

Question

Is it okay to be friends with the other parent and their partner? Is it better for the child?

My boyfriend doesn't think that its okay. He thinks that there should be one phone call and it should be when and where will you be picking her up and when is she coming back, nothing extra like how is she doing? how school? My child is only 5 and can't always remember that kind of stuff.

Answer 1

Yes it is the best thing to do its better than fighting all the time and if you have children well you need to keep the lines of communication open other wise you will make your kids life unbearable also the kids get away with blue murder been there done that.

I was married twice and divorced twice One child to each marriage and we behaved ourselves and it was the best for the kids they have grown up now and thank us for being civilised. I will even go one step further my second husband went on to have two more children with a very bad women (who is out of their lives now thank god) But they have me as a main women in their lives and they know how much I love them (who would of thought) I know that's probably going a bit far but they needed some one and I'm it. Good luck its not all about you if you have kids make it about them and act like adults not immature brats.

Answer 2

Of course its better for the child to be a 'friend' with the ex and their partner. However, that's not normally likely. Usually people divorce because they don't get along not because they want to be friends.

If you want to be a 'friend' you need to keep mind of the past relationship and not get back into it. Know you have boundaries. If you celebrate birthdays, holidays and other events together that's very cool - very.

My husband and I tried it with both our ex's. Didn't always do well because my ex wasn't communicative and not wanting to be a part of "us". My husband's ex used me as a free babysitting service which was fine until she said bad things to the kids about their dad. That wasn't right. You have to have boundaries even if they're unspoken.

Its always - always good to give it a try and see if it works. Just be open and unconditional.

Answer 3

think of strictly expert. you're to take place at artwork at particular situations, in basic terms call in the time of particular hours, and shop discussions artwork appropriate. shop your divorce like a job and clarify that to her. placed issues in writting if needed along with your ex. Your new spouse could be a concern. as an occasion, tell your ex you will talk themes with the little ones between 6-7 pm in basic terms and for no extra effective than ten minutes. If she is going over the ten minutes tell her you could pass and could proceed the convesation at yet over lower back. Hosiptal emergencies are the exception.

Answer 4

if they can actually manage to be friends then by all means it is way better for the children. it is okay to be friends with anyone for that matter. as long as it is a healthy friendship.

in my example, i will never be friends with my ex. i answer the phone just to see if someone is calling me to tell me he is dead. i try my best not to convey these feelings around my children, but since my children are well aware of the physical abuse during the relationship, they don't need any explaining.

Answer 5

You should dump your boyfriend. It is better for the child if you can talk to each other, My ex use to try, before she got married, but now I have to press to get any info from her about my child.

Answer 6

My ex and I are good friends, we get along great. He has to sneak behind his girlfriends back to call.
I think its great to be friends.

Answer 7

who care their child s, only personal fun send all these to prison

Answer 8

yes it is very good to be on good terms...sadly I do not...mine will not say a word to me or acknowledge me and has his new wife talk to me for everything.

Answer 9

Yes its better....