Cheating husband or not?

Question

My husband has claimed to never cheated on me, but for the past six months he has done nothing but accuse me of having boyfriends. I am a stay at home mother, and have absolutely no time for anyone besides my husband and my kids. Well also since all of this has started with him accusing me of this he has started taking "breaks", going places because he needs to get away from the kids all of the time. I usually have no problem and have always trusted him until tonight. He came home and wanted me to scratch his back, no problem, until I seen on his shoulders what looks exactly like sucker bites. He always needs extra money during the week for who knows what and I never see anything that he buys with the money, when I ask him what happens with it, he says not to worry about it, he had to buy gas. We have the same vehicle as always and before he only took 30-40$ a week for gas, now on average he ends up taking 100-150$ a week. I don't know what to think of all of this. I am so confused.

When I asked him about the marks, he just put his shirt back on and walked away saying I was ***** for thinking it could be sucker marks.

Answer 1

Oh honey... have you ever watched the tv show cheaters? When a woman thinks her man is cheating, there is usually a reason. He may not be cheating yet, but it sounds as though that's the direction he's headed. You need to make the man be honest with you, drag him to counselling and let him know that cheating will not be tollerated.... even flirting or spending time or money on anyone else but you and your family. I sure hope for your sake that he's just hanging with the guys, but even that isn't ok in large amounts.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

I'm so sorry but your husband is exhibiting the signs of cheating --- accusing him will do nothing but make him on the defensitve. That's why they often accuse their spouse of what they're doing --- to put them on the defensive to attempt to get the focus off of them. The "getting away" from the family isn't good ---- how long are his "breaks"? And neither are the "sucker" bites --- hikkies --- maybe in a way he was wanting you to catch him that's why he was having you scratch his back ---- or perhaps he didn't know they were there --- visible. And the extra money ....... is he more particular about how he looks lately? Does he have a cell phone? Try getting it when he's asleep or something and check it out --- see who's calling him and who he's calling. Or you may be able to get some info. from whoever his service provider is. You could always play detective, borrow a car and follow him when he's planning one of his "breaks" --- see where it takes him. Good luck! It's better to know, though, than to not.

Answer 3

Yep hes up to no good and spending that family money on some floozy so not fair how about you go away for the weekend? and leave the kids with him and have a great time cause soon he wont be there Here's an idea hire a private detective and catch him properly with proof that should take some smartness out of him.They think there so clever being deceitful slap him with proof otherwise he will just say you are crazy but its not you trust your gut instinct

Answer 4

You are not confused. You know. Trust your intuition. Your subconscious is seeing all the signs. Waking up to it isn't easy and your rational mind is wanting concrete proof. You can wait until he makes a mistake with hiding his tracks, hire an investigator. Check out his cell phone records, credit card records, install spyware - check the computer. In the meantime, I'd go out, get a job, start earning some money to set aside so that I could get out. My soon to be exhusband did similar things and I had the same feelings. He slipped up and left his computer logged in and badabing badaboom - I found out.

Answer 5

oh baby girl. i hate to tell you but things don't sound good. his reaction to the sucker marks gave him away. if it were nothing he should have laughed and went on. men get defensive when they are called out on things. i can't say for sure your hubby is cheating, but i would suggest one night when he is out and you don't know where, either you get a babysitter or have a friend see what he is up to. if he has a cell start making many calls, see if he answers or if he waits and calls you back. when he gets home from one of his outings try to suprise him with some "intimate" time. if he turns you down go get a few changes of clothes get your stuff and out you go. i know you don't want to think he is cheating but if he is and he had the nerve or was just so stupid to let someone leave their mark for you to see, you need to get on with your life. good luck and i hope i helped you!

Answer 6

So why could or no longer it particularly is significant to teach infidelity just to get divorced? If he can provide financial secure practices now, then a choose could anticipate him to furnish that when divorce. My feeling is he would not have a job and neither do you. He leaves for weeks and would not even call residing house to envision on the little ones? super Dad you chosen on your little ones. call it quits and concentration on your self and your little ones. document for divorce so which you will get an order for newborn help for the little ones and you will initiate getting your existence lower back on course. Who cares if he's a cheater. he's clearly no longer a sturdy husband or a sturdy father. do no longer waste from now on time.

Answer 7

I think he's seeing someone...the extra money maybe to take her out and the marks on his back...just face him with what you know and give him a choice, either you or her...he can't have both.
I know you need him to support you and the kids but could you live with what he's doing?
Anyway, men have their midlife crisis and they want to be caught and they usually chose the wife over the lover in the end.

Answer 8

Hmm.. sounds like he's doing something behind your back. Make him dialog with you. No relationship can exist in true sincerity if there is no sincere dialog between the two individuals. If you're willing to talk about this whole thing to him, he should too if he is any kind of man. It's not fair to you to be wondering where the hell he is... I hope he is not cheating on you. You sound like a responsible wife.

Answer 9

You really need to talk to your husband. If you care about him and treasure the marriage. Sit him down one day and just have a conversation with him and gradually ask him about the things you have in mind. Don't be rash and get into a temper. Just hear him out. Good luck.

Answer 10

I think he is cheating but who knows i suggest you go to couples counseling or just leave him. Because he sound like he has been acting very shady. Most likely he is cheating. If you could have someone he would not know kinda check up and follow him one day or somthing like that you should. i would not stand for the way he has been acting it is Bull ****!