My kid is 3 yrs old & attached to me very much. should I continue to do job or leave my financial status low.

Question

My daughter who is 3 yrs old is very much attached to me. I cannot leave her in baby sitting. Since she is missing me, she has become arrogant, short tempered and expects me to be with her all the time without allowing me to do household work. My financial position is weak. I have to do job. I am afraid to leave her in baby sitting also. Please suggests me what I should do? I have no help from my home people also.

Answer 1

There may possibly be something wrong with the sitter.Mabe a new one is in order.You need to be out there working to take care of your family.Your daughter will be fine.Just give her loads of love and attention when you are with her.Good luck

Answer 2

If your child doesn't want to be left with a babysitter, find a different babysitter. The bottom line is: as she gets older, she will be in preschool, then in elementary school. Are you waiting for her to give you permission to work? It may never happen. What she needs to hear from you is a clear message: 'You are staying with this person because I have to work and you need to be safe. I will see you when I pick you up from the babysitter's - we will spend time together every single day. That's enough for both of us.'
Are you giving your daughter, who at all of 3 years old has the mental and emotional maturity of, well, a 3 year old, the job of deciding whether you should do work earning money or even work around the house?
Don't.
This is really a problem you can nip in the bud now. Before it gets any worse. You may have no help from home people but I'll bet you could train yourself in some parenting techiniques that show your daughter you have confidence in your own decisions, not hers. You are the adult, after all.
No wonder she has become arrogant. Expect that to become worse unless you address this problem right now. Very important to remember: she WILL still love you. It will take some time for you to see it but I see a parent who is afraid of her child.

Answer 3

Since you seem unhappy with your lower income, I would recommend finding another job that can pay you more money. Even though it is important to be with your daughter, it is also important that you provide her the basic necessities in life. A better job will benefit your cause.

In addition, at 3 years old mommy time is important, but your daughter shouldn't need to be with you every second of the day. This is actually bad for her social development. In a year or two, she will be going to school and needs to be independent of you to some extent. She also needs to learn to interact with other adults and children.

Daycare will be benefiticial to this. She may cry for the first few times you bring her; but she needs to learn to get buy without you.

Don't think you are a bad parent because your daughter is in daycare. Working parents can raise just as good, if not better children then mothers that stay at home.

Answer 4

It is called seperation anxiety......you are going ot have to do it sooner or later.....because she will be starting school in a few years....It is wonderful that she loves you this much, but she does need some independance.....you need to start pratcing with her by playing hide a seek to begin with, but instead of her find you.....you hide and then come right back out...this way she sees you go away and sees you come back...do htis for a while, and then gradually stay away a little longer, she will learn that when mommy goes away she does come back. Do not allow those temper tantrums, there is nothing ppl hate worse than a child that does that on a regular basis. and you know that they are going to do it, when you are in public....you just have to be prepared to leave immediatly with her. If you are home and she throws one.....you ignore her, and tell her when she is finished then you will do something.....only reward the good behavior and reinforce it.....do not pacify the bad, because she see that as a reward....in the long run you are doing nothing but hurting your child. You child needs boundaries and she is at the perfect age for this......there is also a system of correction that you can check out.....it works really well for us, and my sister-in-law is using it for her 3 yr old, because she to thows tantrums, and expects ppl do do just as she says, because everyone world revolves around her....when at this age of 3, you have to make the transition to make her world revolve aroudn you.....any way check out what is called "smart dicipline" It is wonderful, and easy.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Please email me I don't think this will allow me to type everything. It's important for her to socialize with other kids, so she should be in a day care. She misses you very much. My daughter was 3 when I first put her in daycare and it was rough. My husband was out to sea, and I lived in a place with out friends or family. I know it's hard not to get aggravated about her behavior, but you should get her up on a day that you don't have to work, take her for something special it doesn't have to cost alot she really just wants your time and attention. She wants your love and she wants to feel like you'll be back. Why are you afraid to leave her with the babysitter? If you have that fear, for the safety of her, get her to a place that's monitored.

Answer 7

Tell your daughter that "Mommy needs to work sweetie, the sooner mommy gets, done the sooner she can see you again" and keep saying that until you leave. Just before you leave say "I love you, and I'll see you later sweetheart" and give her a hug and a kiss. Or maybe the reason that she is so attached to you is because she is lonely. See if you can get her a puppy or a kitten or maybe a hamster or a fish.

I Really Hope That This Helps You!
Good Luck!

(You could put the sentences in the quotes in your own words)

Answer 8

I think it's time to go to work if you're in need of money. Your daughter will adjust. If you don't teach her now, what will happen when it's time for school? You could try to leave for work before or after she goes to sleep. Before you go back to work, sit her down and tell her that mommy has to work. Have the babysitter come and play with her a few times before you get a job, if possible. Try and find someone your daughter likes.

Answer 9

If you have a job keep it.This anxety will let up.Have her help you with little things to do around the house while cleaning.If only just letting her think she helping.If you have a good sitter don't worry.She probably has had to deal with insecure three years old.

Answer 10

what your 3 year old is doing is very very normal ...but its now or never you have to break her out of that. but be aware that she will scream kick and yell for a while untill she gets the point.. dont feel bad because your financial situation will give her the things that she needs without her mother struggling and stressed out