He is 18 years old
2007-03-07 16:10:28 · 23 answers · asked by Time 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Treat him like an adult and support him. If he decides to tell you, love him the same as usual.
2007-03-07 16:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if you love your son thats all you have to do. love and support is what he needs. so you "think". what makes you sure. are you close enough that he will talk to you about it. at least make yourself available and willing to listen. my bf for 2 years in high school turned out to be gay and i accepted him. I would rather keep my best friend than lose him cause he was gay. My little brother who is now 14 and my "sister" has gender identity disorder but to the lay men he is gay even though he thinks he is a normal girl who likes boys. I mean is it so bad to be gay anyway. we are all human does it really matter to whom our sexual or physical/mental attractions lie. like i said in at first love him listen to him and be there because being gay is harder to deal with when its you than being on the outside looking at the gay person. its not a disease people are born this way. You loved him the first day he came to this earth and 18 years later what makes it any different?
2007-03-08 00:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by blenda_dabomb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Treat him like hi is your 18 year old son. In other words, just love him, accept him.
2007-03-09 13:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by ebby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive. I came out at 16 to my folks. Oddly, they weren't the least bit surprised. But they never criticized or ridiculed me for it. High school was a complete drag and without my parents help and unquestioning love, I might have committed suicide. Suicide is very high amongst teenagers who are gay and dealing with their sexuality. The option is rejection and quite possibly his death. It is a very real possibility. It is difficult enough in a world that hates us without having been abandoned by our parents too.
2007-03-08 02:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by sophacles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him, support him, let him know you love him unconditionally. He will have hard enough time with his sexuality without you being a part of the problem. Remember , parent, this is not a CHOICE for him. He did not choose to be gay any more than you chose to be straight. Guide him the same way you would have were he straight. Welcome his partner, if not into your heart, at least into your home. Do not ostrascize him, you will both suffer for it.
2007-03-08 14:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Stick to Pet Rocks 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
weather he is or is not, let him be who he is and give him love and support. there is nothing wrong with being gay. of course the Bible says its wrong but if you can show me one person who does nothing that is against the Bible i will cut off my arms! he is still your Son and the same person he has always been no matter what his sexual preferences are. let him know you love him just the same and make sure the rest of his family does the same.
2007-03-08 01:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by heather l 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out a local meeting of a group called PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians And Gays). They are a great resource to help family members understand each other, and that kind of respectful discussion helps keep families together.
2007-03-08 00:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by Testika Filch Milquetoast 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My mom thought I was a lesbian know what she did she waited for me to come out to her. When I finally did at the age of 17 and I knew I liked chicks since I was 13 she said "I knew already", I asked how she said "For one you never dated a guy and the only one you ever dated threw me off until you broke up with him and never dated another dude I knew that you only did that to throw me off". Know what she did after that hugged me and told me she'd always love me no matter what choices I made in life.
2007-03-08 00:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a gay guy who recently came out to his parents, all I can say is love him and support him. Encourage him to he happy and healthy.
2007-03-09 23:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by mpst63 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love and support him. If it was my son I would ask him about it and tell him that he could talk to me about anything and that I'd always be there for him. He is your son. Please don't turn your back on him.
2007-03-08 01:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋