PLEASE HELP! IT'S KILLING ME WITH GUILT, GUYS!
2007-03-07 16:03:46 · 16 answers · asked by kenzie f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Join the club. Been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt. You just have to tell your mom, sooner rather than later. The longer you wait the harder it will be. And it will be better coming from you than her finding out from someone/something else (Believe me, I know).
2007-03-07 16:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Catherine♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the sooner the better as well. I think that being open with those that love you is a very large part of the relationships you have. Honesty is usually the best answer, even though at the time it may be harder, in the long run it should be worth it.
Make sure you go about it in a mature way, that way your mom will respect you and hopefully not get you into any trouble. If you go about it in an immature way, then you will be treated like an immature individual.
2007-03-08 00:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your guilt from your mom not knowing or your guilt is from having the boyfriends. Identify where the guilt is coming from and then move on to a solution about how to tell your mother or if your ever going to. that is your choice , or if your guilt is killing you because you have boyfriends then stop. This is your life charlie brown and you are in control. if it doesnt feel good then stop, if it makes you happy; and there are no consequences then continue, good luck and im not a guy but might have an idea where you are coming from.
2007-03-08 00:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by betsyturminyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how old are you? If you are old enough you should try and be honest with your mother. My dad always told me I was not allowed to date untill I was 21. Even though I started having boyfriends at the age 11. i didnt get my first real boyfriend untill I was 14 and now we have been together almost four years. Anyways I told my dad I had boyfriends when I was 12 and it was not as bad as I thought it would be. Even though at that age i realized it was not really dating.
2007-03-08 00:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by K.T. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's eating you up w guilt tell her. Even if she isn't happy about it at least you won't be sneaking and feeling guilty. A lot depends on your age and what you mean by relationship. Might get better answers if you can add some specifics.
Good luck to ya !!!
2007-03-08 00:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by Polly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer seems simple, tell her. But i guess if it was that simple you would have already right? Start a conversation with her about boyfriends and ask her how she would feel about you having one. If she doesn't like the idea ask her for her reasons, but don't judge them. Then give her very good reasons why you feel it would be OK for you to have a boyfriend. Try to be very adult in this conversation, it will help her see you are old enough and responsible enough to be in a relationship with a boy. Good Luck to you!!
2007-03-08 00:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by heather l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well it all depends on ur age. But first explain to her that ur growing up and one day ur going to end up dating and fall in love. Just tell her he is ur guy friend and ur thinking of having a serious relationship with him. And u want her to trust u and be ur best friend. this way u'll be able to tell her everything. Remember u can count on parents no matter what happens they will be there for u. good luck!
2007-03-08 00:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by Beba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Are you 13? If you can't be honest and forthright within and about a relationship, you're too immature to be a part of one. Get a grip, talk to your mom....and if you're gay, sounds like it's time to climb out of that closet. And you know what?!! Mothers ARE NOT stupid- they've been there before, and chances are she already knows! They have a knack for knowing EVERYTHING!
2007-03-08 00:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by chikensnsausages 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your over the age of 18, there's not much your mom can do, but say ok, than start asking you questions about the guys.
Just be complitly honist with her, tell her everything. Honisty goes a long way. don't lie to her, just talk with her.
2007-03-08 00:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly... OMG? ok tell u something if u really like A alot then go for A... if u like B then go for B... u cant take 2 at 1 time u noe... wad if A n B gets to noe u r cheating them or wateva u gonna b like so busted man!!! so either CHOOSE A or B.. think it over will yah X_X
2007-03-08 00:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by Mighty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋