2007-03-07 15:55:30 · 20 answers · asked by urexchoseme 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am 18 now and pregnant, and I am due in May. So far it has not been hard, but my little bundle of joy is still in my tummy!! But I am sure it will not be easy!! My mom was very supportive from the beginning, she loves my boyfriend, and we have been together for 3 years. My dad on the other hand, was not too happy, but I know that will change when the baby actually comes!!! I was scared to death to tell my boyfriend because I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks before he left for Iraq, and he is still goign to be there when our child is born, it sucks that he wont be there!!!
2007-03-07 16:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by Grace123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I got pregnant with my daughter. My mom didn't talk to me for a day. That was it. My, now in-laws, were very very very upset and still think i'm a slut even though I've been married to their son for almost 3 years.
Parenting isn't easy in general. I was lucky my husband got a steady job (he joined the navy) and we got married (because we love each other).
My parents eventually got over being mad. Especially after the baby came out. They became the spoiling grandparents most grandparents are.
I was very scared which is very natural for any young mother. I was scared if I was gonna be a good mom, scared if I could provide for the child. But things worked out.
The number one thing you have to keep in mind though, this baby needs to mean more to you than anything else. Everything will be fine if that holds true.
2007-03-08 00:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by Rae M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I gave birth to my child when I was 16 years old. I am now 31 years old, so let me give you some pearls of wisdom.
Is it hard?
Physically - with all the advances in technology, your child birth has at least a 85% chance of being not too painful, although there will be some discomfort - No walk in the park!
Socially - To have a child when you are under 25 (my personal opinion) is not to have much of a social life. That will depend on the type of group you associate with. If they are typical teens don't count on them to understand or appreciate the whole "mommy thing"
Psychologically - You are on a roller coaster ride! You will be faced with a tremendous amount of responsibilty that your once independent lifestyle may not be ready for. Your plans for your future will now have to be incorporated with the plans for your childs future. Which should be of the most importance. It's not ALL about you anymore.
Lastly, I only wished that you could have thought more about what all came with sex outside of the Love, attraction, and whatever else was involved. The sad thing is that once you give birth, there is no time for regret(s)! It's time to tighten up the bra strap and handle your business!! No whining! No pity parties!
How did my parents react? Tough love!
They made me accept responsibility for my actions by allowing me to step up to the plate and provide for my child.
Was I scared?
Heck yeah! Guess what, I am still!
Good Luck
2007-03-08 00:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Sheba 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was 21 when I got pregnant and scared to death. Being a parent is something that's gonna be hard no matter what age you are. There will be days you want to pack up and leave for one reason or another. There will be days you understand why people kill their kids. Then there will be good days where you can't imagine your life without your child and don't want to. The good ones occur more often and make the bad ones seem less bad. No matter how old you are as long as you do your very best for that child and love them unconditionally you'll have nothing to worry about.
2007-03-08 00:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by makalas_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first baby when I was 20 years old, and I was married which made my parents very happy with me. Was it hard? Rearing children to be responsible adults is always hard, and you do not get a full nights sleep until they leave home. Was it hard having them as in childbirth, as I am not sure which you mean, it was the worst pain I ever had. I do not regret one minute of any of it. My children are the best things that ever happened to me. Stay in school, get the best education you can so you can support your family. It is very expensive rearing children with the clothes and shoes, medical and dental care, roof over their heads, food on the table, and everything they will need for school. The responsibilites are endless. And as for being scared? I didn't have time to think about it.
2007-03-08 00:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 16 when i got pregnant, 17 when I had her. It was and is still difficult. My daughter will be 5 in about 2 months and I still get stressed. i don't think it will ever get easy. There is always going to be something to worry about. My parents went crazy over my pregnancy, which I thought they were overreacting about. I still think they went way overboard, but in some way, i understand why they did. The state I live in, it is illegal to force a minor to have an abortion so they were going to take me to a state where you can force minors into abortions. I reacted in fear and ran away for 6 months. needless to say, i was highly scared during pregnancy since i had no family to help me or experience it with me. I had no one to ask about their experiences and lost all friends except one. It's a stressful time. You dont know what to expect and are already growing to love your child which makes you concerned for them, anxious, nervous, and about 50 other feelings all at once, which I know i wasnt prepared for. Anyway, it is difficult but worth it. I do not advise running from the situation, it was worse than anything my parents could have or tried to do.
2007-03-08 00:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by j_ace84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child at 19. I wasnt scared as it was what I wanted and had planned. My Mum and his Mum were absolutely ecstatic and excited about being Grandparents.
This may have been because we had lost a baby the year before and it was very hard on us and our families. So to have a beautiful healthy grand daughter was the best present they could have had. She was born in the same month as both their birthdays. Although I know my Mum was disapointed that I didnt get to do all the things she had planned for me.
It wasnt really hard for me, as it was what I wanted and I knew what I was doing and was very prepared for being a Mum. My BF was great but still didnt register that he wasnt a teenager anymore and he now had responsiblilties. Only now (6 years and 2 kids later) has he finally made the connection that he has to be a grown up and act like a man. He is a great Dad, but it was our relationship that suffered because he was there for the kids and wasnt a strong partner for me. As in not sharing the responsibilities and worry about food and bills etc. So for a year or two we didint really have a relationship, we were just parents. I finally had to talk to him and explained that we needed to sort out our relationship.
The hardest thing for me was getting suitable housing. All the real extate agents assumed that because I was young I wasn't going to be a good tenant. So they would offer me crap houses and expect me to pay heaps for them. None of them were suitable for raising a child in. I finally did find appropriate housing and everything (with renting) has been fine, as I am a good tenant.
It does get hard at times, but you figure things out and deal with them as they happen. Same as everyone else.
2007-03-08 00:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first at 18 and my second at 19. I was scared, but then again I think every woman is scared when they get pregnant, no matter how old they are. Once again, it's hard being a parent no matter what your age is. My parents were great about it. It really wasn't any of their business if I got pregnant because they weren't the ones supporting me. I was already living with my husband, we weren't married yet, I had finished high school, paid my own bills, etc.
2007-03-08 00:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my son when I was 19. It was pretty easy and I had no problems with the pregnancy. I had to be induced and I gave birth to him only about an hour later. My mom was happy for me as I don't really talk to my dad, he acted amazed when I told him and he said that he was happy for me and my boyfriend. I really wasn't scared until they broke my water and I really felt the contractions. After awhile the pain made me almost numb and I delivered with no pain medications! It went very well. My son is now 4 going to be 5 in July and I'm currently pregnant with a baby girl. I'm almost 22 weeks and doing pretty good.
2007-03-08 15:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by missy146833 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 17 and had her at 18. When I told my mom she insisted on coming with me to my doctor's appt. I thought she was being very supportive... When we got there she tried convincing him I was too young and to make me have an abortion. Thank god he didn't agree. It was hard with little support, my boyfriend stayed with me, but only because he felt he had to. When I was 25 we had another child and my mother was much more supportive. Now 6 yrs later I'm with a new man and pregnant with #3 and my mom is absolutely extatic. So maybe it was just the man she didn't like not the kids.
2007-03-09 00:29:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lostlove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋