Why do me and my boyfriend argue so much when we say we love each other sooo much?

Answer 1

There is passion in your relationship but the communication
skills may be lacking in both of you. There has to be compromise in a relationship because both of you can not be 'right'. Sometimes pride is the culprit. Compromising is not 'giving in'. It's a mutual agreement. Meeting someone halfway. When you can meet someone halfway,( especially someone you love ) it is a SHOWING of pride and not swallowing your pride. Yes, there are times when you have to 'give in' with the emphasis being on 'give'. But isn't what loving someone is about, GIVING? Don't concern yourselves about who is right and who is wrong. Put each other 'first' and see how things work out. Communication is the key.

Answer 2

Both of you could be taking each other for granted! What happens if one day you woke up and he's gone? You won't miss what you have until its gone. Both of you need to compromise. You need to learn how to agree to disagree, instead of turning it into an argument. Both of you guys believe that you have to be right and you argue constantly.
A well known saying: The wisest person is the person who gives in first. (The argument will go on and on, until one person agrees to disagree). Simply as that. What I find annoying is the person who always has to be right and will argue until the sun goes down. What a waste of a day and then after that you need to make up yet! Whew!! That's alot of work.

Answer 3

Simple you dont have anything else challenging or constructive to do so you find entertainment in argueing. Personally it sounds boring to me there are so many neat things you all could be planning and focusing on.

Try alittle game but be honest and tell him everyday 3 things you like about him and why. Vise Versa to you. discourage any negative conversation and conciously change it to positive complements. Stay away from power struggles about who's right and who's wrong. Who the hell cares who's right and who cares if you were wrong, admit it everybody is wrong all the time, who cares if your right what do you want a memorial day in your name. so what, admit your faults and your strengths will follow. If you have to do this on your own to him, then do it complements and all and then proclaim your mistakes , "you know what i was wrong i will do it better next time" or whatever you say but dont apologize , that will completely throw off any arguement. good luck

Answer 4

It is passion, and don't let it get away. Unlike my wife when there is a disagreement, she runs and hides because she doesn't like to argue. She was raised in a house where no one argued, fought, disagreed. One big love fest. Now it sucks because she can't take any criticism and does not know how to argue.
Call it passion and it will fire up other areas of your relationship.

Answer 5

Either both have a strong personality type, or both have a different of opinion/interest in any/every subjects. Also, it takes both to argue. If this is going on while you are just dating, then you might want to think thing first before any further commitment.

Answer 6

If you didn't love each other you'd have nothing to fight about! You fight because you care what they think, and sometimes they don't agree with you and you don't like that, but even in marriages of several years, people fight, cause they want their spouse to mostly feel how they feel and when they don't they fight! But that does not mean they don't love each other!

Answer 7

I can relate to this issue...my boyfriend and I fight but only when I am feeling smothered...occasionally I feel like we spent way too much time with eachother and want space...could this also be your issue??? Best of luck to you :)

Answer 8

Saying "i love you" and doing it in action is totally different in meaning. You can just say out in word but you cannot express it by actions which is really tragic. Perhaps yours is not love at all.