okay my finace cheated on me.. and i dont know what to do. We have a one month old baby girl.. and he says he doesnt know why he did it and it was just a fantasy. the girl he cheated with is my best friend and she told me everything. She said that it was a two second thing because they stopped once they realized what there doing. Do i leave him or do i try to save our family. im very confused. they said they dont have feelings for each other. we were all very close... because they are the two most important people in my life. Ive known my best friend for 10 years we grow up together and hes the love of my life. do i just get over it?
2007-03-07 15:47:45 · 17 answers · asked by Nas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its hard because you have a one month old baby
if you were single i would love to tell that you just need to get away from him
but everybody deserves a second chance
and that baby needs a father
2007-03-07 15:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know who I would be more pissed off at the fiance of the friend. I am almost going to say the friend because this is unforgivable. I would say good thing that you found out about his character before the wedding. I would move out if you are living together break the engagement and if you are even considering getting back together he needs to do some major kissing up and prove that he made a mistake and can be trusted again. Personally, I wouldn't take him back and as much as I am sure that you love your child this is why it is better to wait until after the wedding to have one. Maybe he figured since you werent married it was ok. As far as the friend goes cut all ties I would never trust her again.
2007-03-07 23:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down and think long and hard about whether or not you can ever trust either of them again. And even if it where a 2 second thing, there had to have been a reason it even started to begin with.
Something like that isn't something you can just "get over" trust me, it isn't that easy. Every time he says hes going to be late, you're going to wonder if he is with her, or even someone else.
It may have been a one time thing, and it may never happen again, but can YOU live with knowing what they did, and will you wonder about it every time you see the two of them together?
I think once the trust is in question, it is time to move on, no-one deserves to be cheated on, especially by the 2 people that mean the most to her (or him).
2007-03-07 23:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by slpkwp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can be the love of your life but not the one your meant to be with. And for the best friend, she's not your best friend she your enemy. If she'll do it once she'll it again. And the same for him, once a cheat always a cheat. And if your young, move on with your life. Then you won't wonder is he cheating on me again. Because now you'll always ask the question. And if he's a good dad then he can still be a part of your daughter's life. But move on that's the only way you'll heal.
2007-03-07 23:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um thats not sumthing u can just get over. If both ur fiance' and friend cared about u enough they would not have put themselves in that kind of situation anyway, even if they do say they stopped, which is kinda hard to believe. u have a young child, but what is the point of being in a relationship if ur partner can not stay faithful? and your friend is not true? im sorry to say id give them both up. i dont stand for cheaters. you have just had a baby together and hes wit your friend, that completely disgusts me.your in bed together.. what if he's thinking of her? by all means let the child see his/her father but stop the hurt now before it gets worse.
2007-03-07 23:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her forgive her, time heals.You won't for get for a long time but forgive her so you can be happy. As far as your friend goes, forgive him and give him his walking papers. He can find someone of his own. In a few years you may find each other again. After you have had time to heal and forgive her.Don't give up on your family. Keep the lines of talking open with your lady, hear from your heart not your feelings.We all have done things we regret.
2007-03-08 00:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by surfmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say this but if he cheated once regardless of what
the reason. the will do it again. as for your so best friend
she not a friend. they should have know what did would have
done since they were the most important people in your life.
i would do what is right for you and your daughter.
2007-03-08 00:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well considering the baby is first on list....Both your friend and boyfriend betrayed you...its gonna take alot to forgive and forget...but how does someone really do that when the people you luv...hurt you....only you know the answer...you didnt mention how long y'all been together...i would run....but the baby....thats a rough one....but do you and will you ever trust him....you dont want to live or have the little one living a rough life....pull your pants up...think of all the pros/cons....then you will know your answer...good luck....
2007-03-07 23:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by akinpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was ready to have sex with your best friend....Ummm he's gonna eventually find another that won't stop after a few seconds. Stay but he will keep doing this.
2007-03-08 01:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by mundo808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one or the other is going to have to go.....if he loved you he would not have done it.......if she loved you she would not have done it either. Question.....what are you going to do when all of you are together.....you are going to see those 2 together in your mind....can you handle that. Pluse when it comes to cheating...do you really think they are going to be honest about how long they did it.....yeah right....tell another.
2007-03-07 23:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋