i am a 25 year old married woman. i have been dealing with crohn's disease for over 3 years and due to that have become dependent on narcotics. i also take zoloft for mild depression. for the past year or more, my libido has gone ka-put. i mean, not just at home, but i can't even look at another man and thing, mmm, what if? ya know? what am i to do? how can i get it back? this has had a huge negative impact on my marriage and i am afraid i am gonna lose everything if i can't make a change... i don't even like kissing, or barely hand holding... i don't know what to do... anyone have any ideas?
2007-03-07 15:23:28 · 8 answers · asked by shiningstar1313 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have only been taking zoloft for 3 months.. libido has been gone for over a year, so i don't think its that. and no, i do not have a parasite.. i definately have crohn's. i am not going into detail, you'll just have to trust me on that..
2007-03-07 15:35:04 · update #1
My wife went through our married life with similar problems. First with IBS and then with cancer. The narcotics have a big role in what is causing your problem. Narcotics will dull your senses to a point that you can actually be a walking zombie and not even realize it. The longer you are on them the more your body is able to function in every day activities, but when it comes to the senses they don't react the same way because the brain functions using electrical pulses instead of muscle like your arms, legs, etc. You can easily walk across the street, but as far as your emotions - you become numb emotionally. We did find a few ways to help. First - talk to your doctor about reducing dosages for short periods of time. This allows your brain to start feeling pain, but it will also allow you to feel pleasure. It is a trade off, but my wife found it worth it once in awhile. You can also talk to your husband(honestly) let him know that you love him and there is no problem with him - it is a problem with medication. Tell him it may require some patience and more work on his part. If he spends more foreplay time and take some guidance from you about what makes you feel better, you will be able to enjoy your lovemaking sessions more. I'm sure he will glad to help in any way at all because it's got to just as frustrating to him. With disease you can't ever expect a lovelife like most people, but you can still have enjoyment and a quality of a good marriage. As far as adjusting drug dosages, my wife's doctor told her that she could cut herself back to whatever pain level she could handle, but not to eliminate the drugs completely. That can be dangerous when your body becomes accustomed to the drugs. We had to experiment a bit before she found the right dosage. She would start reducing them about 24 to 36 hours prior to and would start back on regular dose immediately after. You should talk to your doctor and your husband about all of this before attempting it, but I honestly think you will regain the feeling of being human again(as my wife put it). Good Luck.
2007-03-07 16:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Zoloft kills your libido. If you can't quit taking it I would suggest you ask your doctor for some wellbutrin. My doc told me that would help with the libido problem the Zoloft causes.
2007-03-07 15:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Not really sure if narcotics affect your libido, but Zoloft really can. Have you spoken to your doctor about it? I switched to Wellbutrin with good results.
2007-03-07 15:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Zoloft is the culprit!! I tried it for my panic disorder and quit it because it was horrid, nasty stuff. Can you ask your doc if you can try Wellbutrin? I've read it has less incident of sexual side effects. I hope you get 'it' back soon!
Good luck and take care!!
Tori
2007-03-07 15:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your doctor. My wife was on depression meds and had them changed at least twice by the doctor. It is not easy for you or for your husband. It is not easy for me to know that my wife's libido is so low. Please talk with a professional and ask for help. Do not bury these problems.
2007-03-07 15:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear lovely lady, you have my support on your journey. Begin by acknowledging yourself. You are truly unique. You are the only one in your universe. Love yourself. You deserve it. You are a divine spirit having a human experience. You are being presented with opportunities to learn, grow and experience. Yes, I know it's easy for me to say but it's also true. We can't control what the universe throws at us, we can only control how we react. So control your reaction. Decide how you want to feel about yourself. Decide you are great, you are wonderful, you are fantastic. Celebrate yourself. And share your riches and glory with your loved ones. Your life isn't over until you decide it's over.
2007-03-07 15:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have yourself checked for parasites. They can diagnosis as Crohns. Good luck.
2007-03-07 15:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you talked to your doctor about trying something else....i think that would be best.
2007-03-07 15:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋